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My friend indulges his granddaughters too much
I don't approve of the way he is with them. He is way too indulgent. He buys them treats whenever they ask, and the little one whines a lot if she doesn't get her way. Related to the other question I asked, I wanted to say that he has gotten mad at me before. His oldest great-granddaughter used to be in my daughter's class at school. One day, my daughter was upset because this girl (I'll call her Lisa) told my daughter's best friend (Ally) that my daughter didn't want to be friends with her. I don't know why Lisa did this, maybe out of jealousy. I asked my daughter to ask Lisa why she said this, and she didn't have much of an excuse. I told Sam what happened, and he defended her saying she didn't have to appologise, Lisa could say whatever she wanted. He didn't care that she had made Ally cry. I didn't like his attitude, but I could see he was angry, so to keep the peace, I let it go. I told my daughter to write a note to Ally that said she was still her friend and not to listen to anyone else. This was several months ago. So he does have a pattern of losing his temper. The recent incident doesn't make sense to me since it wasn't one of his great-granddaughers that had called my daughter a "cry-baby." She was just talking to them about it. Maybe he misunderstood. Well, what do you think?
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There are a lot of grandparents who do over indulge the grand kids. Especially grandpas. A lot of it I think because they just didn't have the time to spend with their own kids growing up.
Maybe they feel they are making up for it somehow. When that grandparent spends as much time with the kids as this guy seems to though...not a good idea. Nothing worse than a spoilt kid.
If he does go off now and then I guess it is just a BAD personality trait. You probably won't be able to change his attitude.
What you don't want is for your children to think the behavior is OK. So, be sure you let them no it isn't.
I also think you need to let your opinion be known. If he doesn't like it then let him get up and leave. Otherwise, when his granddaughter starts acting the same way ( oh, and she will!), your daughter won't let her walk all over her.
Hope that helps a little. :)
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