|
falling apart...plz help..long i know im sry
Im in a new relationship.Before we started going out we were besttt friends. sO my bf told me he doesnt know about anything right now. Hes very confused. He wants things to work but he has to figure things out. I told him i would stick by him and he can figure out what he needs to. He really is sweet..he caress about me and doesnt want to hurt me. I told him I want it to work also and I am going to stick by him, give it a shot at least. He said things are going too fast..i guess the transistion from friends to more than friends..plus our friends are acting weird about us (i hate when PEOPLE ruin a relationship) He said maybe hes just feeling weird because this is all new to him..hes just so confused. I like him a lot and i dont know what to do to help him get his feelings straight? after he told he all this online, he called me which is a good sign. it shows he really does want it to work right? what are some things i can do to show him our relationship can be great. im aiming for nonphysical things ...activities..games..things to talk about because he wants to take it slow and i have no problem with that. please help me .5's for anyone who tries..thank you so much
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
Hey, wsup? Sorry you had to wait so long to get an answer. I've been really busy and haven't had time to give this question some real thought.
So here's what you should do. Let him know that everything is ALRIGHT. He's confused because he's suddenly having different feelings about this girl that he once was just friends with. If he's worried that the relationship won't work out, let him know that he doesn't have to worry about anything...he has NOTHING to lose. A relationship can only fall if you make it fall. Take him out to see a movie, or something of the sort at first to break the ice. A dinner or a walk might seem a little awkward at first, because you have to think of something to say all the time, but once you guys have romantically gotten used to each other, it shouldn't be a problem
]
So confused? Things are going too fast?
He is regretting going out with you.
]
I know this feeling. Talk to him. Tell him you know it can work, it's just too soon to tell. Only time will tell. Breaking up with you could end up being a huge mistake for him. Let him know that. He may end up regretting it and wanting you back when it's too late. Tell him you'll wait for his decision, but you can't wait forever.
]
i think that it'll eventually work out for you guys, friends er dating wise. you guys seem to be there for each other through everything & that's good. i think he'll come around & realize how much he really does care for you. don't let go of it though, obviously you both like each other a lot so stick with it. be there for him as a friend right now & let him have some time to think things through, but be there when he needs you to be. it will probably take some adjusting time, since it's new & all but you are friends so it should be fine. if you guys are true w/ each other, people won't step inbetween your relationship, so don't even worry about that. talk to him about it though. then you both know how each other feel.
-hope that helped!♥
]
Sounds like hes getting cold feet now that youre his gf. It may be weird to him, stepping up youre relationship from friends to bf/gf, but i think if he really and truly did like you, it wouldnt matter/bother him! Especially if youre friends are acting all weird about it.
Why cant you just do the same things you did when you were friends. Have fun, like you used to! Things shouldnt change just because youre bf/gf now!
All you can do is keep doing what you both have been doing, before you 2 starting going out. Sometimes good friends try the relationship thing, and it just doesnt work out for both. It might be 1 person is feeling more than the other.
I wouldnt push things with him. Let him go at his own pace, and just be patient with him!
Good Luck!
]
you could go out to the movies with other friends. and you can just have all of your attention focused on him. show him that you are devoted to him and that you can give him his time. if your friends say anything, just stick up for yall's relationship. show him that you are willing to stick with him no matter what people say. i hope this helps. im not very good at relationship stuff but i help my friends out a lot.
~Maegan~
]
More Questions: |