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Er, this is kind of embarassing to say, but I have this crush on this guy that I want to get out of my head, I've had a crush on him.. for about 3-4 years now, and it was only last year that I even told some of my close friends. Im in mixed emotions... because I dont want to be with him because I think Im too young for a boyfriend, but then the other side wants to be with him, but I then think of how embarassing that would be or what if he doesnt like me? Even though my friends think he might, there are other girls, since he hasnt been in my class for about 2 years now, and I'm not sure if I can compete.. or even have a chance with him. Especially since Im somewhat shy at first, but as I get used to someone I open up, like with my best friends. I also sometimes get clumsy at moments making me feel sort of awkward. Like at school when Im talking to someone, like a classmate or something, sometimes I mistakenly drop my pencils, or a binder or something, and I guess... well, it happens often. Whenever I imagine growing up and getting married, I imagine getting married to him *blush* GOD, this is so embarrassing to say. Like, I dont really think of anyone else. I'm kind of awkward around boys sometimes, like I just freeze up. And whenever I'm around him, I freeze up like.. well, something that freezes up a lot. He's in my Lunch period this year. I want to know.. well, what should I do? I'm not sure whether to ask whether I have a chance, or anything.. just I'm trusting you guys to give me my LoveSickness medicine.
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Don't worry about being young-- you don't need to make a lifelong committment to this guy just yet. If he makes you happy, you need to make an effort to start talking to him. You may find that he's not what you're looking for, or that he's a really great guy & he may return your feelings after you get to know him. You can't just suddenly get over him, especially if you've liked him this long. You need to talk to him-- either it'll get him out of your system, or lead to something great. It's a win-win situation as far as I see it.
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you sound alot like someone i know but i dont think i know you. You could maybe have a friend who is in more of his classes talk to him and find out who he likes? But, there might be a risk in sounding to obvious. So you could always get his screen name and talk to him online?
hope this helps
__Amber__
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So how old ARE you if you think you're too young to date? If you are too young, then thinking all the time about dating this guy (and eventually marrying him - don't be embarrassed about that...it happens all the time!) will only drive you nuts. If you're too young to date, then admire him from afar and know that when you're old enough there WILL be other guys that will catch your attention. If you're too young to date, then why even consider asking him if you have a chance? What if he said yes? What would you do then if you can't date? I suppose you guys could hang out together with friends - if your folks are okay with that - like get a burger together or go to the movies.
I'd suggest NOT asking this guy if you have a chance with him! If you want to make some sort of gesture, then get a group of friends together and ask him if he'd like to join you guys with some of his guy friends to go...wherever. However, if he brings a girl, then obviously he has a girlfriend and though that may hurt, you'll know if he's even available.
Try not to start - so young especially - thinking about "competing" with other girls. Dating may seem like a competition, but it shouldn't be one. If you hit it off with someone, then you hit it off. Don't look down on yourself and think that you have to compete. Just be yourself! The RIGHT guy will appreciate you for YOU and not pay attention to other girls.
When you become nervous, try to focus on calmness and tell yourself over and over that you're okay and that you WILL be okay no matter what happens. If you drop something, just make a joke of it and keep on with your conversation. I drop stuff all the time and I've learned to just laugh at it and that definitely makes other people either laugh WITH me (not AT me) or they just ignore it completely and don't think a thing of it, meaning your "clumsiness."
I DO know what it's like to have had a crush on someone older than I AND for a long time. It can get to you if you don't make the effort to open your mind and eyes to other possibilities.
Take it easy here and good luck with whatever you decide to do. Let me know how things turn out.
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