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I'm sorry if this is kind of long, but I have something on my mind that is REALLY bothering me, and I really need help on it ASAP! I rate high, so PLEASE help me.
Ever since eighth grade, my mom has been impossible at times. I remember the summer that I was going into eighth grade. It was the first time that I ever really started to communicate with guys because i go to an all girls school. so, i was about twelve or thirteen when I first started meeting guys, going to parties, and all that stuff. well, i really really liked this guy named JC. I was like in love with him. And he liked me too. But, my mother was so overprotective, that that whenever I was talking to him, she would sit next to me on AIM and told me everything I had to tell him. And she would sit next to me while I was on the phone and she had to hear everything that was going on. She never let me tell him that I liked him. And guess what? the boy lost interest and to this day I cry myself to sleep because that was my first love and my mother never let me even talk to him. Therefore, him and his best friend say that I talk like an old lady all thanks to her.
Time passed by and my heart was healed my new love, Rafael. Rafael healed me and I healed him. He has been like a blessing to me. I love him so much. but, now i am in high school. my mother should be giving me more priveledges and space and privacy. But, she sits by me even when I talk to Rafael. So, Rafael sends me a music video and he told me just to listen to the words of the song. So, I did. and the words were very sweet. But, the video had some material in it that my mother did not like. It had like contrivercial things in our society. and it wasnt evey like sex or anything like that. It was like weird people. so, anyways, she took it very personally and made me tell Rafael that I did not want to have anything to do with that. And now, when I told her that she should let me make my own decisions and that I want to be with Rafael and she should just let me do what I want, she says that I am crazy and that I have no dignity and self respect. I told Rafael that I didn't like the video and he said that he was sorry for it, but my mom is so overprotective of me!
And another thing that she does is that whenever I tell her something, she always has to tell like the entire world. She tells my grandmother, my aunt, and she even tells the hairdresser! and then she tells me not to tell my best friend since like 8 years anything about whatever.
I've already tried talking to her and it doesn't work. SOMEBODY PLEASE HELP ME!!!! TELL ME WHAT TO DO!!!! PLEASEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!! I'VE ALREADY TRIED TALKING TO HER! PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE HELP!
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An over procted mother. Hmm. Okay talking to her was my frist reaction to this. It's one of the only things that you really can do. Listen, i kno you tryed talkin to her but i think that if you sat down with her one on one, face to face that she has to listen to what you say. Be very mature about it, take clamly &nd not yelling. Be like "Mom, im __ years old &nd in high school. I'm really mature for my age unlike some people. I need you to trust me like i trust you. I'm not going to run off &nd have sex with everyone or anyone, I'm not ready for that. I'm growing up &nd i really like this guy. Mom i really do love you &nd i love your advise but i think that it is really ouckward to share my personal love life with my own mother like 24/7. I'm just asking you to lay off it it a little. I will &nd always come to you when im in need &nd im really asking for this." thats the best that i can really think of. Unless you bring over Rafeal to your house to have dinner or lunch or something so you can show your mom what you are asking of her &nd that she can trust you. i hope i helped in any kind of way. &nd good luck &nd tell me how it goes!
<3 amy
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