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i'm 24/m
i was in love with a girl who is 6yrs younger to me and i proposed her, she said she cares for me respects me and is my good frnd but she doesen't know what love is and also that our relation can't be successful because of our age difference, i explained her that how much she means to me and i cant live without her and 'm ready to put all my effort to make our relation successful,let me tell you one more thing that we live in different cities arround 2400kms away, but this didn't discouraged me and i thought i should giv her some time as she is to young to make such decisions so early(she's 18) and we continued being frndz, but after a couple of months we again talked about the matter and she still said the same thing but this time she also said that she's still to see the world ahead and she may come across someone in her life whom she may fall in love with, but i still felt that she loves me but is not ready to commit as she thinks i'll 've to wait for her for long time as i'm setteled with a job and she's still to complete her education and that may take around 5 yrs for her to settel,i was still ready to giv her time but this time i was very much sad and now i came in contact with her elder sis who was also a frnd to me,when i talked to her she at once realized that i'm in trouble and its because of her sis,she was very undestanding and we started discussin all our problems with each other,she told me everything about herself and i did the same,she was so supportive to me b'coz i was in love with her sis,after a few conversations only we decieded to meet as i was worried about my relationship,so i travelled to her place and we sat and talked about the girl whom i was in love with,this girl being her sis and her best buddy too knows her very well and so she told me that ya its true that she doesn't loves me as she had asked this ques from her long back and she gave the same ans to her sis also what she has told me,i felt completly shattered and had no clue what should i do, this girl,the elder one,told me to be paitient and think what i gonna do if she doesn't turns up to me after i've waited for her for 5-6yrs,she was very much supportive and gave a lot of love to me but tried to make me realize the fact that i'll have to look out for an alternative,but i culdn't see any other alternative rather than this girl and i ended up kissing her(we were in a hotel room for an entire night and this happened early in the mornin when i wake up and was about to leave),finally she got very disappointed and asked me to leave and i also realized the mistake i'd done,i went into deep depression from where she only helped me to come out by being a very nice frnd to me then, and now i wanna marry this girl,i mean the elder one,as i felt that no one can be so supportive, so lovable and so understanding as she'd been to me,she's still my frnd and still she talks to me but she doesn't wanna marry me as she can't forget what i'd done with her she doesn't wanna marry at all as she doesn't believes in marraiges and i somhow made this belief of her more stronger,i'm in a state of delima that what should i do and what not,and the younger sis whom i loved doesn't knows anything about this and she's still my frnd,please advice me what should i do, have i done anything wrong by proposing the elder sis
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You were going out with the younger sister for awhile before you proposed to her I'm assuming. You're ready in your life for marriage and in your mind this is the time for you to have a fiance. The older sister though, you haven't dated at all, so proposing to her probably wasn't the right thing to do. She's not ready for marriage or even a relationship with you. If she accepted your proposal she would be disrespecting her sister in a way. She's worried more about her sister's feelings, you are "off limits" to her at least for the time being. You need to give it some time. Settle down a little and give both girls time. Decide which one you want to be with if either. Don't use the other as plan B after you've made your decision. Don't do anything until you know, just stay in contact with both of them. In the time that it takes you to figure things out for yourself they may have figured things out for themselves too. My advice is to just give it all a rest. Neither sister is ready for the kind of committment you are just yet. Leave your options open though too. Don't restrict yourself only to those two girls. There are other girls out there that would be good with you and maybe neither sister is right one for you. Basically what you need to do is take a break from both of them. Don't go crazy, but time will help this situation a lot. I hope everything turns out well for you and good luck!
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