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stressed out
I recently broke up with my long term boyfriend, that just recently moved back up here from Florida. He moved to Florida because he was having serious problems with his life, (getting into drugs and things) and I was happy he moved because he broke my heart several times while he was doing these things. while he was in Florida, i didn't feel like waiting around, which is a normal feeling of any girl. I hung out with other guys that he wasnt too thrilled about. But he always forgave me, even when I told him I was going to a prom with another guy, (that he hates)... and I even cheated on him.. twice. And he knows that. Now idk why I did those things because I am completely and totally in love with him. I think it was because to see if I wanted anything else out there. Well, anyways, we got over that part of our lives, and now hes back up here. About a month ago,we got into a very very serious car accident together. I was the driver, and it was very hard on me mentally because it wasnt a fender bender. (We are dealing with that in process.) I felt like he'd always be there, but like any guy, he moved on very quickly and started talking about things i couldnt believe he was talking about. We were good for about a week after that, and then I started getting really paranoid. I am very nervous when he is up here. About what hes doing, who hes hanging around with.. I never trusted him. Then, he started skipping school everyday, simply because "he didnt feel like coming". I started getting pissed because obviously that was the first sign of him changing back into his old ways. So, we broke up.. and then I hung out with another boy. He found out, now hes telling people we broke up because I hung out with the boy, not that hes an immature ass hole who wants to screw up his life. He calls me his mother for wanting for him to come to school, but I just think I'm one of the few who actually cares about him. But now, I don't know what to do... because now hes putting on that act like, ...'I'm never going to be with you again, but I still want you to want me'... Personally I think thats bullshit and no girl EVER deserves that. But, I cant not take bullshit from him because.. I've been with him for so long and I love him so much, even when hes the biggest ass hole. I feel like I need support from this accident and he's the only one I can share it with because he experienced it with me. None of my friends understand what its like to go through a huge tramatic thing in your life and not have many people to talk about it with. I know I should be giving up on my exboyfriend.. but I dont want to. I want to be with him more than anything in the world because when I am, I feel 10 times more happier about myself. I dont know if its a personality disorder or if I'm just pure crazy. I need advise, fast
.. I know its long but please I need help
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Dear stressed out,
True, it is very hard to get over someone especially someone who you've been with for quite some time. But if you two already broke up and cheated and did everything else wrong, then maybe it wasn't meant to be. Everything happens for a reason right? If you guys really loved eachother you would be there for eachother always. I'm not saying it wasn't worht it or you're bad people, all I'm saying is if you it didn't work out from time to time then it wasn't meant to be, move on. It's gonna be hard...real hard you're gonna think about him alot and your gonna want him back. But lets say time pasts by and BOTH of you want to give it another try then you can but don't rush on back to him because you're just experiencing some break-up after math. And let's say that you do want to get back with him, does he? Does he truely care for you and promise to not do any more bad things to you? Just take a whiel to think about, not a couple of days or weeks, this process could take months. But really think.
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this is like another story i previously answered. Just support him. tell him its wrong to do drugs and skip school and that you want to be friends and talk to him. like i ALWAYS say LOL - things will improve over time and we just have to be patient good luck with everything and take BABY STEPS!!!
PeACe
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