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Hi
You just answered one of my questions, you know the one where I'm asking if the guy that I went out to lunch with liked me as more then a friend. Well you and I both agree that it's obvious that he does like me, but you said that he is in love with me!. How do you know this just from what I said he did in the restaurant?
I'm really curious and would love to hear back from you.
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Hi again,
Well, the romantic gaze for one, the way the looks at you, from what you describe is more than infatuation. Especially when he starts asking about 5 years from now. He is saying things to you like “prince charming.” He wants to live happily ever after. Sounds to me like he has been thinking long term. Only guys who truly believe they are in love will think long term.
How long have you known him? Better question, how long have you been close friends? Also, a lot of guys can be courteous and hold the door for you. But how many guys will sacrifice their comfort for yours. Only men with some strong feelings for a woman will do this. How often is he considerate of your comfort. Does he always try to make you comfortable when you are together? DOES HE NOTICE OTHER WOMEN WHEN YOU ARE WITH HIM? Men who are in love will not notice other women. They only notice the object of their affection. Unless he feels that you do not feel the same way. Then he may try to hide his feelings by looking in the general direction of another woman.
If he is shy, then he is not just going to come out say I LOVE YOU. You should stop beating around the bush and wasting time. Life is to short to be coy.
The most important thing is to be honest. Just sit him down over a meal and drinks. If you drink that is, alcohol always brings out the true feelings. Have a nice relaxing dinner, (the evening is always more romantic) and then sip on some wine or kick back a few beers while watching a movie. Act casual, but friendly, then approach the subject. Tell him you have been giving a lot of thought to the conversation you had the other day and want to know exactly what he meant. Find out by simply asking him if he has stronger feelings for you than he is letting on. Pick your questions and choose your words wisely. If you have stronger feelings for him than simple friendship, then you owe it to yourself to take the relationship to the next level. You never know the explosion of passion that can happen when a man-in love- is not shy with you anymore.
Love is a grand thing. The unconditional kind. Above all your lover should always be your best friend in the world. You should talk to him about his feelings for you. Before you get him to tell you how he feels, you should disclose how you feel the relationship is going. A friendship is a relationship too ya know!!
If he denies any romantic feelings for you, then ask him why he is so concerned with you being alone in 5 years. If he says that he just cares for you and doesn't want you to be alone, then let it go. Thank him for his concern and tell him that he is a good friend.
Hope I helped a bit. Take care, I am here anytime you need. :)
Sincerely,
Honestymatters
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