|
Hey, my name is faith I'm agirl and I'm 11, and I went out with this guy and I broke up with him becouse I liked another guy and I thought it wasn't fair to him.Now he's asking me out again and I think I still like him.Also . my best friend likes him.What should I do?
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Work/School Relationships?
Hi Faith. Sorry to hear you're having boy problems. It can be really confusing at your age, especially when one of your friends likes the same guy, too.
First, I think it's important to understand that when you are dating a boy, it's normal to still like or be attracted to other guys, too. Even people who get married as adults are still attracted to other people. It's impossible to turn of the biological impulses that make us have butterflies or get a little nervous around certain people.
What is important is whether or not you ACT upon this attraction and go so far as to cheat on your boyfriend. I think it was very mature of you to decide that if you had a desire to be with someone else, then you shouldn't be with the first guy. That shows that you have a lot of class. So now that he wants you back, do you think that after you get back together, you're not going to want to break up with him over someone else? It's not very fair to keep hurting his feelings like that.
Also, I think it's important for you and your friend to respect eachother's feelings. The most imporant thing is that you two don't let guys come between you, because many guys are going to come and go, but your friends will be here to stay. So do you think dating this guy would upset your friend?
If you still like him, and he still likes you, and your friend understands he is attracted to you and not her, then I'd say to give it another try. If it doesn't work out, then at least you have an experience and will know what to do the next time you have a dilemma like this. I think again the most important thing is that this doesn't become an issue between you and your best friend.
Good Luck, and thank you for asking me your question. I hope I might have given you another way of looking at the situation to help your decision.
Anne Nonimous
]
More Questions: |