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WOW! We do both have the same story in a way. I know i have to let him go-but i cant find it in my heart to do that. He is very confused andneeds time to realize what he left-but i think he loves me and misses me also so thats why he comes over-he does not have to-but he still does. I know that neds to stop but that is do hard also. I only function when i see him and i dont want him to find someone else;but yet i know if i keep holding on it will prolong the "free"time he has. I am tired and drained of trying to get him to come home so now it is to the poijtn where i know he knows what i want and how i feel now he needs to figure it out himself. I know i need to tell him how it is but i also dont want ot not talk to him--I have been through crap with my 2 kids dads-my sons passed away 1 yr ago in december and my daughters lives 2 1/2 hrs away so i just want a normal family for my children and when i thought i finally had it together it walked out the door and my life came crashing down on me. I do not want to date any longer-my children are 5 and 7 they are getting older and im a single mom and not too much help for babysitting-so dating really is not an option for me not at this time and not in my heart. I had 5 years to do what i wanted after my daughter was born and im done playing the filed--well thats why i say i know he needs that time but the thought of him being with someone else-h=olding touching and being with someone like he was me terrifies me and upsets me even more-thats why i think i tell him to come home and let him know i need him--and i know i have to stop that. This is really hard. and i knewit would be. I need all the help i can get to get through this. If anyone has a aim or yahoo i could use chat advice too. My yahoo is instant messenger is sweeteyez4u2. Thank you for you help andmore is greatly appreciated if you have it.Thank you
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Listen to yourself for minute "I am tired and drained" and "i know i have to stop that" You already know what you need to do. Doing it is the hard part. Focus your attentions on something else, like your children. Focusing too much attention on him, is taking attention away from other things in your life. Focus on learning something new, or making improvements on existing things. Spending all your time focused on him is borderline obsession. Any obsession no matter what it is cannot be healthy. Give yourself a make over and just spend some time putting your life in perspective. You may not want to look for another man, so don't. The one that is meant for you will come around when you least expecting him. Focusing on something else will take your mind off of him and allow you to move on with your life. DO NOT PUT YOUR LIFE ON HOLD FOR HIM TO FIGURE OUT WHAT HE WANTS. While he is deciding what he wants life is just passing you by. Good Luck
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