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need a guys opionion...again
Hi Silly Rob
It' me again, the girl who asked you about the guy who was in that really bad marriage.
Well remember I told you that he gave me his old computer?
Well he is coming over next week to help me install some programs. I think it would be a perfect chance to ask him what he thinks about us being together.
The problem is that he is really shy (and so am I) so what would be an appropriate way to start out the conversation? I want him to know that I really care about him and think that he would make a great father one day.
But like you said, I don't want to say divorce your wife and marry me.
What would be a safe approachable way about going about this?
I don't want to say anything I might regret. Maybe he has been waiting for me to make the first move.......
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This is tough. Believe it or not I'm really shy in real life. I would have the toughest time trying to think of something. Maybe ask him if he ever wants to have kids of his own one day, or casually get him to talk about how his life is going and whats going on with his wife and marriage. Try and find out from him that he isn't happy with his marriage before even trying to be the friend and helping him through it. So far this seems like it's going to be tough, and take a lot of effort and stepping outside of normal boundries (since you're shy, I completely understand), but it sounds like it would be worth it. So yeah, approach him by getting him to tell you how he feels about his wife and marriage. I can't really tell you what to say, I don't know him. So with your knowledge of him, turn my vague idea into more of a personal one. Then, once you have him say he's not happy, is when you should be the friend and offer any help. Let him know you'll always be there for him. I don't however know when the best time to bring up how you feel for him will be. If you bring up it too soon it'll seem like you're just a homewrecking harlot trying to steal him, but you could also time it poorly and get him while he's emotionally unstable from any marriage problems. So just play that one by how you feel. I'm really glad I've been able to help you so far.
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