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when i met my boyfriend, my mom LOVED him! and all of the sudden she like swares that his dad is gay. the other day, he dedicated a song to me and she obviously saw it because she was sitting right next to me... like always! and now she like swears that my boyfriend is gay too.
so, shes all like "give him the cold shoulder because i dont like him for you anymore and u cant like him because i dont think that he's right for you" so then she claims that i like this other guy, jc. and i dont! so, she says that i cant like my boyfriend because i like jc.
so, i need your help to
a) stop getting my mom to watch me every time im on AIM or myspace. I tried talking to her. but it doesnt work. she just says that i have to be watched. and i dont understand that because i am such a "good girl" its incredible. i never get into trouble and im always good
b) stop getting her to try to control me. if i like my boyfriend, then shes gonna hav 2 accept him. and i want to know a way to try to convince her that he is not gay. and i cant just go up to him and i cant just go up to him and tell him "please tell my mom ur not gay" i need a really good way to show her
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im not one to beat around the bush...this one is s a little tuff! lol. but ill try my best..(sorry in advance if it isnt very helpful)
i know you said you already tried talking to her, and i dont know what you said,
but i think you need to sit her down, and be more upfront, spilling your heart out to her,
"you know i wouldnt do anything im not supposed too, i never get in trouble, why cant you trust me, this is so stupid, you wont ever be able to watch me when i move out, you should let me be a kid while i still have the time, let me have fun sometimes"
stuff like that maybe, the only thing is you might get in trouble, but i dont know your mom so i dont know if you will or not.
or maybe even take on a few more responsibilities to show you are mature and trust worthy.
ask her why she thinks your boyfriend is gay, because he wrote you a song? this might sound weird but it seems like your mom is jealous of you and your boyfriend.
tell her that you and her are two different people who like different things and what she says doesnt always matter to you.
"if he was gay, do you honestly think we would be dating eachother? and last time i check im pretty sure i am not a guy"
you dont have to use those words exactly..but thats a good question, heh.
tell her as long as you two are together, that she needs to accept him. she may not have to like him, but treat him nicely. cause i bet if she was in your shoes she would be really mad at her mom to, and want to be trusted and not watched all the time.
you could also start going out more, to a friends or too the mall or school functions or something, if your allowed too. or start staying after school and catch a late bus or a ride home with a friend, just so you dont have to be watched all the time.
again, im sorry if this wasnt what you are looking for, but i hope i helped you out a little bit.
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