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Me + Mom = War
13 - Female
Me and My mom fight constantly. Wether its about the clothes I want to buy ( like their price ), the friends I hang out with,my cell phone, driving the golf cart around the neighborhood, how clean my room is, my grades, even what razor/shaving cream I want to use. We fight over everything. I`m not a bad kid, I don`t smoke or do drugs or get bad grades, but she treats my like I`m 5! What should I do, I hate that we fight all the time, she purposly says stuff to start a fight. ( Like she does things that she knows annoys me ! ) I`ll rate.
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First, a good thing to think about when your around your mom is to think about what you say and how you say it before you talk. my mom and i fight somestimes to and its usually because of the tone i use or what i say etc. just watch what you say and hopefully she should do the same. if it still seems to be a problem talk to your mom about how you feel about the fighting and what you 2 could do to fight less. parents and kids arent always going to get along but if you talk about your fighting atleast it willhappen less often!
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You're 13 years old! To me it sounds like you are living a pretty awesome life right now. Maybe you're a little spoiled.
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Don't let it get to you. Really, if you just let it go, I mean when you know you are right but don't tell her something just so she won't go off about it, then she can't charge you guilty for any fights you might have. Try not to let those feelings get to you, because later on in life, you'll appreciate it more if you never fought back and made life impossible for either of you. Try not to argue or fight back or anything, because you might say something that could lead to something bad, and living life with regrets is the worst. When you fight, try not to be too responsive to things that are said. If something she says gets to you, or you know is wrong, don't act on it right away, let her finish and continue. Take things in and try to figure out why those things are being said. Don't try to interuppt by correcting her or denying anything or stuff like that. You probably won't like doing that too much, but that would probably let her finish what she has to say a lot faster. No, I'm not saying not to talk to her at all either, just be careful of what you say, and be more of a listener than a corrector. I know, it will probably be tough at first, but it is something you could get used to...because it doesn't seem like arguing back and forth feels to great or has proved to make anything better.
To feel better, say to yourself what is right. Let her assume anything she wants. Defend yourself if you need to, but so long as you know the truth, thats all that really matters. If that doesn't help all that much, talk about it to somebody you trust. Don't need to get into details too much, or come up with solutions, but usually talking about it helps, even if its a little bit. Hope that helped and good luck.
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