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which friend did i let down..?
well listen my best friend started going out with this guy, Josh. i didn't know josh but we started talking more and more because josh was goin out with my best friends. well josh wants to break up with my best friend because he says that he doesn't think he trusts her enough and that she doesn't treat him how a girlfriend should. i agree with josh, i've been noticing my friend's behavior and i dont like it either. anyway, somehow she found out about what he said and she asked me to call him and tell him not to do it. so i did.. but josh and i started talking & i really felt like he had the right to do what he wanted. it wasn't my desition or hers to tell him what to do. i basically told him listen to your heart and do what you think is right. he is now calling my best friend and is breaking up with her. me n josh are really good friends now too, though.. i feel guilty.. did i betray by best friend?
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I sympathise. It's never easy being in the middle of someone's relationship. Particularly not when you have loyalty to both sides *sigh*.
You haven't betrayed anyone, it's not your responsibility to sort out their problems- your friend should never have asked you to tell him not to do it i the first place. That's for her to talk out with him. Equally, what on earth were you supposed to do, hold a gun to the boy's head? You culdn't have stopped him doing what he wanted to eventually.
Just try to be there for both of them without ever bad-mouthing the other. That's the best you can do. Hopefully they'll both respect your friendship with the other- if not, reassure them it doesn't afect the friendship you're offering either of them.
Seriously, best of luck. I have a couple of friends, both parteners of which i adore and what you've just described is literally my worst nightmare (apart from being trapped under water...but that's irrelevant...lol).
Hope it turns out well
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No, you didn't do anything. You didn't say I think you should break up with her. You did what anyone would have done and told him to do what was best for him.
Actually, you probably did both a favor. If he wasn't happy with the relationship, it wouldn't be long before she'd have been miserable too. She will get over it soon and move on. Don't beat yourself up about it. :)
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