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Does she like me?
Do you recall a day or two ago, answering an insanely long question about some guy who asked a girl out and etc etc etc, she said she liked him but she couldn't? Same guy here. Well, I explained to her that I didn't care about the other girl killing me, sticks and stones, etc, and then she sent me another e-mail that said like "Darling (my name here)" and "Lots of love, (her name here) xxx" and the middle of it was "Someday, this will be our lovebug. But until we can drive, a picture will do." And then she sent me a picture of a car that had hearts and stuff on it. It was just all random and sudden in my opinion, and I think she laid it on a bit thick with the "darling". I mean, I'm thrilled, but it just doesn't seem like her... and it's so out-of-the-blue, she had just been saying that she wasn't sure if she liked me, and then she said she did. Was she being sarcastic? Is she trying to give me the slip? It's just the "darling" that's so sudden, and so heavy. And also, in case, I do get a date, I always wind up in awkward silence. What are some good small-talks? How can I avoid the silence? Seriously, I always try to think of something... last time I was with her, we were at a carnival (as friends) and at one point we ran out of things to talk about and after a while she's like "Wow... this is awkward silence..." And it's kinda annoying. What's some good conversation starters? I've already told her all my jokes and comedy routines... OK, I'm babbling, I'd better stop now.
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I agree with you - I think it's a bit weird that she's gone from saying she likes you but can't be with you (because of Crazy Other Girl) to suddenly calling you darling. But the bottom line is the same: she's still saying she doesn't want to be with you right now.
It sounds like she's playing games. This could merely be because she's uncomfortable telling you how she feels - she might not want to hurt your feelings, she might not fully understand how she feels, etc. It doesn't sound like you're going to get a straight answer anytime soon...but you could choose to listen to the un-straight answer she's giving, which is a consistent 'no.'
Sorry if that sounds harsh, but sometimes keeping your hopes for the future means you can pass by some pretty great opportunities in the present.
If things DO work out, with her or anyone else, then awkward silences can be, well...awkward. Rather than worry about entertaining the other person, you can just comment about your situation. Where you are, what you did during the day, the new CD you bought. It can help to go on a date that eliminates the awkward. Like, for instance, going to a pottery painting place gives you something to talk about - the painting - and lets you both focus on what you're doing. It's a nice distraction that can actually make it easier to talk.
The same is true of a lot of dates. Then, of course, are the dates where you can spend a hunk of time NOT talking: paintball, the movies, a concert, etc.
Generally if you find the right person, the silences will fill themselves. Both people will want to talk and be heard, and conversation will come more naturally. Until you find that person or get to that point, though, paint pots!!
Best of luck....I hope things work out for you.
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