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Friend's Woman (Sort of)
I was good friends with a guy named Stan. We kept in touch with letters since we lived far apart. He told me all about Megan, his girlfriend, and she sounded so awesome. Then I met her and she WAS awesome. She and Stan got married later and I was kind of jealous. Well, now Stan is dead (killed in a car accident) and Megan has moved really close to me. We've been around each other a lot lately and I really like her. I want to ask her out, but I'm not sure if it's a good idea. What should I do?
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Well thats a tough one but i say just give it time becuase she might still have her husband that died on her mind. So i mean it might just be to soon for her. So just waut a while.
~Kristy~
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I think simply asking her would be a bad move, she might not be ready, she might get offended or hurt or not know how to act around you.
Continue to be her supportive friend. Talk to her about dating and her views. Does she feel she is ready? Is she looking? Or is she gun shy now and wants more time alone?
Listen to what she says, not what you want to hear, if she gives you any signs asking you to back off, do so right away.
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Greetings...
I think there are a few key factors to consider in this picture:
1.) Is dating Megan at ANY point disrespectful to the memory of Stan and the friendship you two had?
2.)Do you think Megan is ready to move on to a new relationship; has she properly mourned Stan?
3.) If the answers to 1 and 2 are kosher, do you think she has ever shown a personal interest in YOU?
This is a hard one to tell, but I do know is that it is most likely VERY easy to alienate her so I would tread lightly. I would start with friendship, first. Ask her to do something neutral (such as go to a museum or do an activity) that isn't so romance-related (dinner and a movie is pretty obvious). Offer her an outlet to talk about her loss. If she has found closure and she is interested in you, I'm sure the signs will be obvious if she's as smart and savvy as you make her out to be. In this situation it might not be what you say and do, but what you do NOT say and do.
Good Luck!
Anne Nonimous
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