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Feeling regret
My husband and I have a pretty normal marriage. We live in a vacation area in Washington State where the real estate values have skyrocketed. Six years ago my husband wanted to buy some property for $200,000, I thought it was way too much for us at the time and didn't think we could afford that kind of payment. Needless to say, that peice of property today is worth one million!!! We had no idea this would happen. Now my husband blames me for us now not being rich! I feel so guilty I can hardly stand it. How can I get over this. It is over nad done now, but he is upset by it. I just don't know what to do. We are doing pretty good.
We own the cabin we live in, own a 3 acre peice of land and one rental cabin. I think it is good but he can't get over me not going along with the purchase years back.
Thank you for any advice to help me get over my feelings of guilt and regret and move on.
We are 41 and 47 years old
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well, i can totally understand how you would feel regeret. but neither one of you knew that it was going to be worth that much. the same thing happened to us, we didnt buy the property nextdoor to us, but if we would have, it would be worth so much!
I know how you feel!!
it happened a long time ago, in your case, and its stupid to get mad over it because it isnt like you can go back in time and change anything, so why waste breath or time on it! thats just pointless! so, tell your husband that you are really sorry, but you didnt know that the price was going to increase so much! and you wish you could change it but you cant!
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First off you should sit your hubbie down and tell him that everytime he brings that up, it hurts your feelings. You should also tell him that when you told him no, you were thinking for you and your husbands well being. Its not fair for him to hold this against you, considering it can happen to anyone. Not everything turns out the way it could have, and whats done is done. Tell him to put the past behind him.
Hope I helped!
~Melissa
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Dont be so angry at yourself for not buying it at the time, because back then you didnt know that the price was going to rise! But there is always a reason why something went a certain way. But as long as you have shelter, food, and clothing, you can survive! There will always be something that you would be regretful for doing later. It was good judgement of you not to buy the house, because for all you knew, the price of the house could have gone down, and you would have less money than before!
Well I hoped this helped, and also.. er.. money cant buy happiness, so you can be as perfectly happy living cheaper, than living richly. xP
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