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Husband looks at porn and lies
Hey younggrandma, sorry that this is long,
My husband and I have been married for a few months and I love him to death. But he keeps looking at porn on the internet. It makes me feel insecure, fat, ugly, and not very special to know that he looks at this stuff. I asked him to stop, and he said ok. Then I caught him doing it again. I asked him again to stop, and he said that this time he _promised_ not to do it anymore. And I caught him again. When I confronted him about it, he said that there must be something wrong with the computer, because he promised that he wouldn't do it. Then I gave him very specific details about the things he'd been looking at, and he confessed. Now he's promising not to do anymore, again. I told him I don't trust him and now he's mad.
So, my questions are...I really feel like I'm overreacting when I get mad about this, am I? Is it normal for married men to look at porn? Do you think that his lies are restricted to this area only, or might this indicate that he's lying about other things? Do you have any other advice? Also, if somehow I violated the TOS (I don't think I did), please let me know how so that I can rewrite it better, because I really need help right now.
Thank you, thank you, thank you.
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You didn't violate anything.
I think if he looks at it a lot...I mean constantly its not good. If he occasionally looks there, I wouldn't get to worried about it.
Married men (like single men) think about sex a lot more than we do it seems!
The fact that he keeps going back on promises bothers me a little. That makes me wonder if he has a problem. It could be he does it because its forbidden. :) So long as everything else is going good and he isn't looking at it and totally ignoring you I would leave it alone for awhile. If you can stand it go look at it with him. That might take some of the enjoyment out of it for him! I know this isn't the best answer, but tell him you don't mind so long as he doesn't do it all the time and see how he reacts. If then he seems overly obsessed with it, come on back and In the mean time I will do some checking on the subject. Okay? Good luck :)
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