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okay...well this is stupid and i know the answer is going to probably be something like "well you lost your chance" or something...
well I was really close to this guy, and we were like practically dating, and I felt like i didnt like him (which i was totally wrong) and we stopped hanging out and we both went on vacation and didnt see each other for like a month, and when i came back he hugged me, and i realized that i still have feelings for him, but him and one of my best friends are like dating now, and I told him I'm not messing anything up between them,but I still like him. and now after I told him that he's ignoring me. I dont want him to ignore me...
and the reason i thought i didnt like him was I like this other guy more than ANYONE in the world...and he told my friend jason he wanted to go out with me again (we dated for 2 years) but then when i asked him about it he said he would email me, so he does like 3 weeks later saying i dont know what to do and stuff like that, then he emails me again because he was ignoring me, and he said he was sorry for ignoring me but he was still thinking and everything..then we went to the fair with a bunch of friends and stuff *hes REALLY shy so we didnt talk alot but we did talk* and i was the only one he let take his picture..but now i havent talked or seen him in 2 weeks. I dont know if i should ask him about it or just leave it alone... because i think i liek him more than the other guy who is dating my freind
i know thats probably stupid and confusing..
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very confusing!! lol
If you like this guy more than the guy who is dating your friend, then just go for it!!
Obviously your not going to be with the guy who is dating your friend..
so just forget about him and move on!!
You lost your chance with the other guy, so don't lose this chance you got with this guy that you really like!! because you might not get an opportunity like this again!!
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Try to calm down about it a little. Getting mixed up about it will probably lead you into doing something that you'll think was a mistake later on.
While both of the guys are around, you most certainly haven't lost any of your chances. I will refer to the nameless guys as "Guy nº 1" as the one who is now dating your friend, and "Guy nº 2" to avoid confusion.
I think guy nº one is having trouble with the idea that you like him. He doesn't sound like the kind of guy to just be a complete jerk, and stop talking to you because he's got a girlfriend (although it's always a possibility). It's likely he just doesn't want to deal with anything that could make him waver in his current relationship, and that is you.
If you really did like him so much, then you could wait to see how he's going with your friend, and maybe they'll fall apart or something. If they did, I'd be asking her why before taking up the race for him. If you need confirmation, you're right in not trying to mess up relationships, but I think you already knew that.
Guy nº 2 doesn't sound that bad. The shy ones are sometimes the nicest. It depends on how you really feel about him. If you're seriously considering getting back together with him though, be mindful of why you broke up the first time, and try to resolve that before you start up with him again. Sometimes things like that can be the hurdle that couples just never get over that stops them being right for each-other.
Basically, I think you should slow down on things. They don't seem to be going anywhere, and as long as that's true, then you're not losing anyone. The best way to lose chances is to screw something up, and then you could never get the chance again. Take some time to think everything through, and then when you're so sure that you know what is right, do something about it.
-K
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I personally think you should just wait and not bring it up. You should let him make up his mind about whatever he has to think about and if you like him that much then you can wait awhile and not hurry into things like that. Either way he'll always be your friend and I think you should just enjoy his friendship until things are worked out. Hope I helped and hope things turn out good. <3 Blair
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