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hi michele i'm 11 years old and im a boy. i have a girlfriend but sometimes i like to look at other boys and sometimes at night when im trying to sleep i think about those boys and touch myself "down there". it feels really good but it's scary. is this normal? what should i do?
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I think it is normal to be curious about sex, and about your own sexuality. I think young people think about sex in many different ways today, because of all the exposure you get to sexual images on TV, magazines and advertisements. And of course each person in those ads is drop dead gorgeous. They are all attactive. In some cases the men more than the women. You don't have to make a decision at this age, on your sexual orientation. Some people think they are attracted to the opposite sex, and find out well into their adult years, that they are REALLY attracted to the same sex. I think sexual fantasies are safe and we cannot control them. If you think about boys, then so be it. Does that mean you will become more and more attracted to boys as you get older. No it is not a guarantee. My suggestion is that you take your time, and go slow. Sometimes it is "people" that we are attracted to. We like their personalities, and would be attracted to them whether they were male or female. Usually it is because they are nice to us. That is OK. What I think is most important in the world, and it may not happen until you are much older, is that whomever you are attracted to, let it be someone that you love and respect, and who loves and respects you back. And that you enjoy each others company. That is what will make you happy in life. But do be careful. If it turns out that you think you are more and more attracted to the same sex, you can't just go and blurt it out in mixed company. It is still not accepted in many places.
Hope this helps.
Good luck to you.
Michele
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