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my friend is taking my nich
i need your help i have a best friend kind of and she wants to take guitar lessons two and i play guitar and everyone thinks its really cool because i take em now they r gonna think she is and i finally fond sumthing that no1 does at lest the girls and now that is gonna b taken a way from me. im 13/f and so is she she was at my skool then left and now for this year she is coming back and so everyone is gonna kno i love being unqce(cant spell)another word for it different so i dont want her to be just like me and she ven getting the lessons from the same place as me and wants the same teacher
i rate big and i need ur help soon as posible i dont kno if i should b happy for her or tell her how i feel but if i tell her she will take it the wrong way and b all mad at me and this year i dont want to lose another bf so please please help me
signed,
thunder bunder
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Sorry I didn't get a chance to answer sooner - computer trouble.
Anyway, I think you should talk to your friend and let her know how you're feeling. She can't know that you feel this way unless you tell her - as awesome as best friends are, they can't read minds, unfortunately, so we've gotta communicate.
Communication is key in every kind of relationship, including frienship.
I strongly suggest you talk to her - if/when you do, make sure you're telling her how YOU FEEL about what's going on instead of telling her what she's doing wrong. If your tone is accusatory, there's almost certain to be a fight.
I suggest you use "I feel" sentences. (Yeah, kinda childish, I know, but seriously - it works. It's prevented fights with my parents, believe it or not!)
Example: "[Your friend's name here], I wanted to talk to you about how I feel. Lately, it seems as though you and I are doing a lot of the same things...same instrument, same teacher...I don't mean to be mean or anything, but it's bothering me a little because I kind of felt that guitar was my thing - it's what makes me different."
That's one way to say it. There are a lot of different ways to phrase the way you're feeling, but note that what "I" was feeling was emphasized over what's going on. "I want you to stop playing guitar because it's my thing" will only make her angry, or hurt, or confused.
But yes, do talk to her. Let her know how you're feeling, and emphasize that these are your feelings, etc.
I hope this helped. If not, I'm always wiling to try harder!
-Siren =)
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