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Okay this is super tricky for other people. I dont know what to do and the more i ..keep it in i guess i just get more and more depressed. So im pretty depressed. Oh and dont worry about that Im perfectly fine. i only get sad when i think about him. Okay so heres the deal : I love Him. He loves my best friend. My best friend loves him. But they arent going out because their both really shy and scared because of her mom. and i dont blame them. anyways As life goes on , the more i love him. She knows i love him, because thats basically why were best friends. We would talk forever about him. dreaming about him. so now all of a sudden he likes her, and im not included (;_;). I want him so bad. But they seem to be growing closer. And i dont wanna go between them because she loves him like....stalker love but shes not a stalker. for her, it was love at first sight. And if i had a chance with him. could i take it? no because i cant hurt her. I really need your help. Sorry if this is too difficult. Im pretty sure i have covered everything. And if i didnt ill take to you on AIM. Thanks. <|3
Tay
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Ah, your story is so similar to my former love story. (sortof) See, my best friend [female] was "in love" with my other best friend [male]. He liked her, she liked him, presto! Instant relationship right? ... wrong. I liked him, he liked her. Same story with us, right? But things changed. My best female friend decided that she didn't really like my best male friend. So, he was sad .. blah blah blah .. he and I grew closer together. Then, in late March (like the 30th or something) he told me he liked me. And I liked him. So we got together, and we're still there. He's still my best [male] friend and she's still my best [female] friend. Things didn't work out between them. Maybe it'll be the same way with you? Perhaps my story was a bit of a freak happening.. but what can I say? I'm a bit of a freak myself. Haha.
It was hard for me, as I'm sure it is for you too. I wanted so badly to let him know how I felt, but instead, I lied to myself (mistake #1) and tried to convince myself I didn't like him (mistake #2). Neither mistake worked. I still liked him, I just hid it. Hid it well. I told my best [female] friend, "Oh! I'm so happy for you!" etc. etc., but inside, I'd cry and cry. But my friends didn't break up because of me. And I'm grateful for that. I tried to be a true friend and be happy when everything else was saying to be sad. I, like you, suffered from slight depression during that time (very slight).
My advice to you is to be the BEST friend you can POSSIBLY be. Smile when everything else says to scream and cry. << SUPER hard, but do-able. Let your best friend know how you feel, that you're happy that she's happy, but you still really like him. Also, if the dude doesn't know, let him know that you like him. Though be sure to say that you're not trying to break them up (even though they're not "together"), you just wanted to be open and honest. Honesty is the key. The biggest, heaviest, hardest key you'll ever try and pick up, but the best key. :-) Now, even though you REALLY only want to hang with that guy, try and meet some others. Make new guy friends and see new faces. Get out there and say "hey" to a stranger. Hang out with a new crowd, be the social butterfly. I'm quite sure you'll find that if you stay busy, active, and have LOTS of GREAT friends, new friends and old friends, you'll be less depressed. No, it won't solve all of your problems, but it well help.
Too bad they don't make a Band-Aid for broken hearts, eh?
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Stay friends with both of the mentioned people, try and grow closer to them. Be honest with both of them, but also stay healthy and active. Take up a new sport or hobby. Try and keep your mind busy. Focus on school work and friends.
I don't know if I've helped at all. I'll let you be the judge.
-FunnyCide <3
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