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Well about my family. My mother and I get along very well. We help eachother out around the house, keep eachother company, and make eachother laugh..when her boyfriend isn't living with us. Which is every few weeks for about three to seven days. There isn't five minutes in a day that they arent arguing and half the time they are full out screaming at eachother, slamming doors and my mom crys about every other day. He has punched a hole in the wall, and pulled a gun on us twice. Once every three weeks or so, we'll have to leave the house around 12 or one at night for our own safety (usually on school nights). He was a very heavy drug user and went to jail about three months ago for it. The cops are at our house every couple of weeks, making him leave, and every time he does he steals a bunch of our stuff. One time, just to be an ass, he took all of the dog food so the dogs couldn' eat and cause us trouble. He does little things like that just to be a prick, everyday. He's always making things up about me to get me in trouble with my mom, and he used to be nice to me in front of my mom, but lately he's even being a jerk in front of her to me. They will fight and yell for hours at time, but if I say one single thing about him my mom says,"I don't want to hear it." or "I've heard enough today." So she'll listen to him yell for three hours but wont listen to me say a single word. My best friend was over the other day and we were laughing about something and my mom said, "You two need to be quiet so Brian does'nt get in a bad mood." Now I can't even laugh in my own house with my own best friend because God forbid Brian gets in a bad mood. You have no idea how many times I have full out told my mother exactly what was on my mind (I quit trying to tell her months ago) but she just doesnt care. Sometimes we will plan to go somewhere after she picks me up from school or practice, but she'll bring Brian when she comes to get me, so when I get in the car she acts like we never even had plans, and when I ask her about it she looks at Brian and says, "Do you feel like going to..(wherever it is I want to go)?" and of corse he says no, so we just go home. Theres also been a few times where this will happen, then when we get home he decides he wants to go somewhere, so they go do what he wants to do. Hes never had a job for more than 6 weeks, and at one point he didnt have a job for over a year. At the moment neither him or my mom have a job because they worked at the same place and he got fired because he dissapeared one day on one of his fits for like three days. It caused my mom so much stress that she quit her job. Whenever im on the computer, I CANNOT get up for even two minutes to use the bathroom because he comes in and closes EVERY single thing I have up just to be an ass. And when my mom asks about it and he lies, she completely takes his side. What I've told you is barely even "the tip of the ice berg." I hate being at home not knowing whats gpoing to happen next or if this fight is going to get out of control again and he'll pull a gun again. I hate that when they fight and they both take off in different cars at 12 at night, that I have to be scared out of my mind knowing that he'll be back first. I hate being scared and im tired of crying. I just dont know what to do. I thought maybe i'd move in with my best friend, but they arent exactly wealthy..her mom doesnt work, but her, her dad, and her brother do. I wouldnt have a car or anything to get a job and theyd also have to worry about my school hours which are different from theirs. I'd be a complete problem. What do you think?
-Kayla
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Kayla,
Wow! Let me try to make this short and sweet. Scripture commands you to honor your father and mother. I don't know where your father is in this situation and I'm sorry if that's a sore subject, but this we know. You must give due honor and respect to your mother. The Bible never says that you only have to honor her when she is acting right, but that you are to honor at all times. I know it is hard to respect someone who doesn't "seem" to care, but trust me, she does. You can only fulfill your obligation to God. You are not responsible for what your mother does. In regards to your mom's boyfriend, I don't exactly know what to say. I would stay out of his way and pray much about the situation. The next time you and your mother can get some alone time, talk to her about it. Don't argue, just let her know what you're thinking. Don't be emotional, just talk. If he EVER takes a gun in an offensive way towards you or your mother again, find legal help immediately. He may just be trying to intimidate you but you never know with these types of guys. Your mother may be angry about your involving the police, but in the long run, it is going to be best for him to be removed from your home. Let me finish with this: don't focus on your being a "victim." Do what is right in God's eyes and He'll do the rest. Hope this helps.
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