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hi i am worried about my family and how they yell a lot. My brother is dating a girl that has a baby but is not his. And he wants to marry her. But my father is against it. And if my brother marries her than my father said he will disown him. What can i do to help both my brother and my father?
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Wow, that's rough! Really hard question too... I think that You should talk to each of them first individually. To your father simply say "Dad, I think that maybe it's okay that ____________(brother's name) is in love with ___________(girlfriend) and even if she has a baby, it's ok. People make mistakes like having a child early on. She did a good thing and kept the child, even if she could have put it up for adoption, she kept it because she loves it." etc....
To your brother say something like
"It's great that you love _________(girlfriend) but are you sure that marrage is coming up soon? Dad's not very happy about it and well, I see where he's coming from, not saying that you shouldn't get married, but I see where he's coming from. Even if it is quite normal in the world for there to be a child in the family that's not the husband/wife's. But still, thinking about it dad does have a point. But you should follow you're heart."
I can't make the choice for your family. But I think that you should just show your brother and dad the other's side of view. Maybe they will agree on what is best for them.
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