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A man that dosent like to touch a woman??
Im 23 years old and have been with my husband whos 33 for 6 years. It takes me along time to reach orgasim and can only do so my oral sex or by him touching my clitoris.
I put alot into our sex life to keep things spiced up and enjoy it but when sex is over he acts like performing any sort of "favor" for me is a chore. Ive tryed to tell him his behavior makes me feel like he dosent want to do it and only is doing so to make me happy. When Im thinking this its impossible to reach orgasim.
He dosent understand its not that hes doing the wrong thing its just how hes doing it.
Ive tried and tried to explain this to him,them women need more emotional stimulation and not just physical. I would like him to say nice things or act like he enjoys it but he acts like its just a chore to do it. I though all guys liked to touch woman. Whats the deal with this? Its so frustrating because I get aroused during sex but then when there is no release because I dont want to have him touch me as a chore I just end up feeling used.
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I suppose that if your husband is doing something he doesn't like because he loves you, then he is being considerate in his own way. Still, it's easy to see why you would feel frustrated, hurt, or confused.
The first thing I would ask is: Have you confronted him about this OUTSIDE of the bedroom? Having discussions about sex while still in the heat of the moment - or just afterwards - isn't a good idea. Emotions are too high, and people are more likely to react in negative ways.
Your husband could have the exact same worry as you - that you don't enjoy having sex with him because he has to do all of these 'extra chores.' Now, you and I both know they aren't chores. People like different things, and partners should love them enough to be supportive as long as they're safe and consensual.
But if you let your husband know that you love him and find him attractive, maybe that will boost HIS confidence. When he's feeling better about himself, he will be more happy to stimulate you in the way you need.
Communicate, communicate, communicate.
Best of luck.
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