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hi im 17/f--i liked this boy that i work wit, but i didnt wannna make da first move. s0o he made the first move, we started ho0kin up, then wen then that got borin we did otha things nd now we have sex... but idk if he likes me or juss wants to b fuck buddies, wut should i do??
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Talk to him and ask him about it. you might be nervous to ask him about it but just do it. honestly i'd rather know, then just be wondering.
hope i helped ya a bit.
<3 melanie
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you should ask him before you get emotionally hurt.. ♥ Dez
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I find that most white people that speak in ebonics aren't taken seriously.
Maybe you are in the same situation.
Intellect is the key to relationships.
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Stop having sex for a while and see if his attitude towards you changes. If he's only there for the sex you'll know it soon enough, and if he IS then you don't need him anyways.
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Well how often do you see him OUTSIDE of work??? And when you DO get to see him outside of work, do things get sexual EVERY SINGLE time?? If you took away the sexual perks from past visits... what else happened those nights?? Did you talk?? Have any in depth conversations?? Cuddle any?? See some movies?? Do you laugh and share jokes at all, or is he always preoccupied with meeting other women. In a case like this, I'd assume it's prettie easy to determine whether or not he has feelings for you. But as for WHAT THOSE FEELINGS ARE.. you'll NEVER know until you ASK HIM!! You can ASSUME you know his feelings ALLLLLLLLLLL you want, but the truth is.. that that's ALLLLL it will EVER be - an ASSUMPTION!! And what do you "do" about it??? How should I know??? That's all up to YOU! That depends on your morals and views, ya know?? Some women are perfectly okay with keeping a relationship strictly sexual [and I'm soooooooo NOT knocking on that ;D ;D ;D], but others find it crushing, if not disgusting as well. However, you've already stated that you like this guy, so I'm going to pressume that this hurts you a great deal, so why not talk to him about it? I realize this is easier said that done, but I think it's best to just flat out ask him. Don't beat around the bush, just say it. Just be bold, be honest, and go for it. If you want to know for a FACT what's in his heart, you MUST question him on this. Make it clear to him that you want to take your friendship 'to the next level'. And he won't be mad or angered, because it's a perfectly legitimate question. You're just asking for clarification that he will committ himself to you 130% in this relationship, JUST AS IT NEEDS TO BE, and he will understand this. Tell him all that he means to you; don't be afraid to get deep and personal, as this may enhance your chances with him. Hopefully, this will get him to open his eyes and accept all of the beauty and splender he has right infront of him. =]
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