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Bisexuality.
I am a thirteen year old girl and I think I might be bisexual. I have never actually had a thing for anyone other than males but I get turned on by lesbians and recently have developed a very kinky streak for other females. I know I am young and that many teenagers go through stages where they are confused about their sexuality but I am worried because I don't know what my friends will think. Some of them laugh about homosexuals and bisexuals and my best friend said if I turned out to be a lesbian/bisexual she would be really wary of me. How do I know if I am for sure and how do I deal with it if I am?
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I really don't think there's any way for you to find out for sure if your lesbian or bi right now. No one really knows what's going on in their head, or with their body at 13.
So, there's really nothing you can do about it right now. If you want to be completely honest, then tell your really good friends what your worried about and see how they react. Perhaps not the friend who already told you that she would be wary, but try telling someone that you think would be ok with it. That might not be an option... I remember high school and how easy it was for things to get out, especially when you don't want those things to get out.
so.. I don't know how you would know for sure. As for dealing with it? Well, your going to get some people that avoid you if they find out. Those people are assholes and deserveto have something bad happen to them. :)
But, there are also goign to be the people that treat you the same as before, or even like you better for being able to be honest and be yourself.
No matter who you are, your going to have these kind of problems. There are always going to be some people who judge you, whether they mean to or not.
High school sucks. Good luck.
Also, I thought I should add that sometimes telling someone seems scary, but really, that person would be the most understanding.
I say this because in high school my best friend was bisexual. When she came out, she told a few other friends before me, and, of course, I found out before she told me because people gossip. When she finally did tell me herself, she said that she was afraid to tell me because she didn't know how I would react. But, out of everyone, I was the most accepting of it. I also didn't feel the need to go to the next group of people and laugh about it like others did.
Sometimes, your friends can be understanding. Sometimes they just suck. You have to figure out who's really a friend, and who isn't. If they're really good friends, then they'll either be ok with it from the start, or they'll work through it and eventually be ok with it.
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