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Kenzie..Its Alli, I have a question, i know you answer questions the best out of anyone. this ones hard, and i need the best answer. here you go:
Ok first sorry if this is sorta long. Anyway..Theres this girl and iv'e been friends with her for 8 Years. Since we got into Highschool she dramatically changed her personality. And is currently hanging around people TOTALLY different from me. For example,my friend used to be a classic beauty queen, a beautiful girl, With a wonderful personality.. Now she dyed her hair red + black (from blonde) and is wearing all black, shes sorta goth/punk. And her and I did everything together, i loved her with all my heart as a bestfriend, and i know she loved me as much .. or maybe even more :) But now all of a sudden, i cant hang around her because she tells me to go away, only because im different than her new friends and she told me she doesnt want me to get judged by them. (for the reason of she doesnt want to see me get hurt). And, i really get depressed because i miss her so much, her and i were so alike, and we had a friendship that you honestly would never expect to dissapear. So i had to talk to her, she told me she doesnt want me to change to become friends again, or the same for her. But i honestly dont want to lose a bestfriend like her, because i love her too much. I know this is hard, but what should i do?
Thanks Always,Alli xO
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UnfoRtunately people change, ya know? You can't expect this giRl to be exactly the same ALL of heR life. I wouldn't say she's GROWN UP, because it's completely appaRent she has not. She obviously lacks the social gRaces and willpoweR of that of an "adult's". This is obviously a "stage". She just staRted high school, that's a BIG change fRom Middle School and just a whole new level of LIVING entiRely, if that makes sense? High school is Rough foR eveRyone; we all just deal with it in ouR own ways. TheRe's many pRessuRes and peRsuasions that can quickly get you questioning youRself, and who you aRe as a whole, ya know? But you *HAVE* tRied talking to heR -- which is gReat, definitely the fiRst step. UnfoRtunately, if she says she doesn't want youR fRiendship, then you just have to accept and Respect that. You DO NOT have to AGREE with it, and why she feels that way, but you MUST accept and Respect heR wishes. Honestly, why a "best fRiend" WOULD and COULD so easily tReat you this way is COMPLETELY BEYOND ME!!! And if she INSISTS on hanging out with heR same usualy cRowd oveR you foR the sake of spaRing youR feelings.. what does that have to do with a fRiendship OUTSIDE of school at least??? Have you tRied asking heR about THAT? I don't see the haRm that could be done theRe. You'Re HER fRiend.. NOT THEIRS, so theRe's no Reason she SHOULDN'T be able to upkeep youR fRiendship. Just make shoRe you tell heR how this entiRe situation makes you feel, and how you appReciate heR and all the splendeR she bRings to youR life. If she's STILL against the idea of the fRienship between you two, I say YOU be the biggeR peRson, and let heR know that if she eveR needs anything, she can come to you; let heR know that just because SHE doesn't consideR it a fRiendship anymoRe.. that she will ALWAYS have a fRiend in YOU!!!!
SoRRie I couldn't be of moRe help, Alli. I Really *DO* wish things woRk out. Know that I'm always, always, always heRe foR me if you eveR need anything, Kidd-o; you know how to Reach me. Take caRe! :D
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