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Pushed Aside
Okay so i have this friend who i have been best friends with for 8 years. Just this year she made a new friend which I'm totally cool with but lately I've been pushed aside. She is always with this other girl and never is with me anymore. I don't know how to talk to my friend anymore. Also, she told my other friend Valerie that this other girl is more so her best friend then I am. I don't want to be jealous but i can't help being it. I've been best friends with her for 8 years and out of no where I am being replaced! What should I do
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try to dothings with ur bestfriendnthat girl so all 3ofu canbe bestfrinedsortellurbestfriend thatu feel like urbeing replacednudont wannaloose her as a bestfriend
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well the same thing happend to me.... and i talked with my consoulur at school and she said tell your friend how you feel so one day on the internet i told her that ever since she has been friends with the other girl she hasn't been actin like she wanted to be friends any more and that she shouldn't get mad bc i'm tryin to help her... so... she siad that she never really ment to hurt me and that she was goin to try to change back and i told her if she didn't then i didn't think that we could be firneds any more but ever since i told her all of that she really has been actin like herself and not actin like she doesn't want to be firneds anymore... so tell your friend exacly what you think!! i hoped i held!!
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well freind ship doessnt last a life time what i would do would go and find one of your other friend sand start hanging out with her and when your freind see it she might be the one getting jealous because she knows that you dont care what she is doing she will think that you dont even want to hang out with her and maby she will start hanging out with you again i had the same thing happen to me when i went to school one of my best freinds was hanging out with another girl what i did was found another freind and started hanging out together then my best freind came up and wanted to hang out with me and now we are best freinds and still a big group she is still hanging out with her freind and i am hanging out with my freind and now were a big group and that helps and brings up your relashionship better hope i helped
brittany
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Well as you and your friends grow, so will your relationship with others which causes you to leave your other ones behind. This is all a part of growing up. You're not being replaced, it's just that you guys aren't as close anymore. You guys should still remain friends but not best friends. You should tell her how you feel and tell her you still want to be friends, just not best friends.
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I have been there before. I have lost my old time friends from like 2nd grade and 4th grade when I entered middle school...and truely I never did gain them back. It's not like we have a grudge against each other or anything, it's just that we have all moved on and some of my friends have literally moved away.
The only thing you can do to keep from losing your friend is to talk to her. Tell her what you told us. It probably won't fix the problem 100%, but at least she'll know how you feel and if she's a good friend, she'll start trying to spend more time with you and fix the problem. Sit down with her somewhere and have a long talk. Perhaps even with your bestfriend's new friend, so that you can let everyone know how you feel. Don't feel bad about feeling jealous and replaced because we have all experienced that when a bestfriend starts spending more time with someone else.
You could also try becoming better friends with your bestfriend's new friend. Maybe you'll even like her more than you thought you did. That would be a good thing because the three of you will hang out and you'll have TWO bestfriends. There's nothing wrong with having more than one bestfriend.
And if all else fails, I'll tell you the truth. Not all friendships work out. Sometimes, even the sturdiest and longest friendships die out.
Think of it this way: "In everyone's life there are certain people who have helped to form his character and given direction to his life; they are like big stones in a river that force the water to alter its course."
And even if those people are not with you forever, they still helped form who you are. Cherish your memories...don't forget them, but don't be sad when your newer memories don't have your bestfriend in them. You will make new friends. Just be glad you were friends with your bestfriend and you made some good memories together.
Even if you were still friends with your bestfriend, that doesn't mean it will last forever. It might have to end eventually anyway. Different colleges, etc.
Try fix your friendship, but if it doesn't work out, just accept it, look at the positives, and live life.
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