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run away
My friend has been missing for 2 weeks and I'm really worried about her. She ran away from her house because her parents are abusive and they are always hitting her and her dad and her moms "boyfriends" did a lot of sadistic things to her that nobody deserves. Well she told me about everything that was happening to her and I tried to get her some help but that only made things worse. She was put in a foster home where they treated her just as bad. So badly that she ran back to her parents house. She's been doing drugs, drinking, smoking, and cutting for a long time now. I talked to my parents and they said that she could stay with us as long as she stayed sober and clean. I told her and she said that she can't do that she's been in it too long and she can't not do it she said she was going to live with this kid and she gave me his number. I called there and he said that she never showed up. Well then she called me. She was stoned and she said that she was sorry but she couldn't make it to my house and that she really messed up this time. She said that she talked to you and that you gave her good advice but she couldn't do it. I'm really worried about her. She gave me a cell number and I've been calling her everyday but I have no idea where she is. Sorry that this is so long.
My question is how can i get her to tell me where she is and if she's ok? I'm really scared and I don't know what to do. I've talked to my parents and they've been helping me look for her but they don't know what to do either. I think that they are ready to give up and I don't know what to do. What do I do? Please help me I'm soo worried about her.
Lauren
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Dear Lauren,
I am so sorry that this is happening to your friend. I do remember her questions to me, and my answers. I tried hard to encourage her to stay off the drugs and not be like her parents. Her parents are terrible, they should be shot. I am glad that you have a good mom and that she wants to help, but I am afraid that you would both be over your heads. I think she means it when she says she can't stop, so most likely she would bring drugs and stuff into your moms house, and put both of you in danger. You guys are wonderful to want to help. She needs professional help. People who can provide shelter and strong counseling. People who are used to dealing with people who have been abused by the people they are supposed to trust, and so they stay high so they don't have to deal with the pain. I told your friend to go to the nearest covenant house. They take in runaway kids, in any condition, and for any reason, and they don't make them go back home, and they don't call the police on them, and they know that many kids who run away are on drugs, and it is because they are abused. Go to their website www.covenanthouse.org and see where there locations are. Is there one near you guys. This is what I told her to do.I know that they would take her in. She just has to get there. If she calls you again, maybe you can talk her into going there. Maybe you guys can drive her there. If she does call you again, it may be because she is really desparate, and needs a place to crash. SHe may be in a bad way, and she could be in a lot of trouble. I know you want to help her, but you may not be able too. I caution you both about letting her in. But do encourage her to go to one of the covenant house locations. If you can take her there that will be great. If she gets arrested, try to show up at court when she is arraigned. Talk to the judge, tell them briefly her story, and that she needs to go to a rehab. Maybe the state will send her to a rehab and cover the costs. But at best shell have 10 days there, and then be out. But if they keep her sober or straight for ten days, then maybe she could stay with you. I know you are worried about her honey. This is the results of how her parents raised her. they should be in jail, but unfortunately, they won't get in any trouble for this. They don't even care. I wish I could be more help, but I can only tell you that a place like covenant house is prepared to help her with food, clothing, shelter, counseling, and she can stay there as long as she likes, and as long as she follows the rules. They are very supportive, and become like her family. The one she should have had. There may be other places like covenant house, and maybe there is a place like that near you, but I would not know. Maybe you can find out. She will call you again, I just know she will. Inside she is a good person, and she knows that you care about her, and so few people in her life have cared about her. YOu have done a great job. You are a good friend. Remind her about what I said about covenant house, and that you too think she should go there. Lauren, where there is life, there is hope. It may take a while for her to straighten out, but I do believe she has it in her to do it. It may just get worse before it gets better. But you did good, honey, you did good.
Let me know what happens.
Michele
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