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there is a girl at school she is so mean how do i deal with it i mean she used to be my friend and now she is so mean to me
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
Well I need a little more information first. Like how old are the two of you, and why aren't you friends anymore? If you were both adults, I would give this advice......When people are mean to you, it is usally because they hurt inside for some reason. It may have nothing to do with you, It may be that the person's life at home is awful, and they just don't know how to cope. So they are mean to everyone. To someone like that I would be very nice. I would pay them a real big compliment. It almost always, always brings a smile to their face. Even if you just tell them that you like something they are wearing. Well, now that I give it more thought, this is what I would advise you to do. But it IS IMPORTANT, that she is not being mean to you because you were mean first. If she is just paying you back for being mean first this may not work.
What does she like to do, what does she think she is real smart at doing? What does she excell at, and like doing and like showing off doing? If you can figure that out then it may help if you said something like.....Wow, you are soo good at such and such, and need your help, but I won't ask you because you are too mean and I don't like it. When we were friends, it would have beeen easy for you to help me, but now I can't ask you. Of course it has to be something that she really wants to do. And I don't know if just going to the mall would be enough incentive. I think she is being mean because she is hurt. I think she may miss you too, and wish that things were better between the two of you. Were you both really good friends? The more you two were friends, the more she will miss you, and is being mean to hide her feelings. She needs a way out. She needs a way to be friends with you again, but still save face with the rest of the kids. You have to need help with something real important.....like saving humanity, or saving some animals that were harmed, or collection food for the poor, or donating time for a good cause. Something that she would say yes too even if it were not you doing the asking. If there were a school project, something that the whole school would benefit from, that you two could do together. Could you two work on an end of school year party or dance, or maybe on a gift for the teacher, if you both have a favorite.
Well these are just ideas.
I will say this, that when you grow up, you won't find so many friends that are mean. People mature, and girls don't act like that when they are older. Oh there are a few, there are always a few that never grow up, but most of us do, and you will make some good friends in college or at work, that would never be mean. Those are the ones you keep.
Michele
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