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here is this guy who has had a crush on me for two years minimum. He got up the nerve to ask me to dance (at my Bat Mitzvah) and, as I was having a mental breakdown at the time, I said no. Even if I weren't having the mental breakdown, I would have said no, but without the snarl at the end. As I am thirteen, I think that relationships are stupid at this age. Most ages, really, since guys seem to be lacking in the intellectual department. Anyway, this guy is friends with my friends, and they have been nagging me ever since. That is a LONG TIME!!!! So how do I get them to shut up?
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Tell them you don't want to hear about it anymore. Firmly, and with a snarl at the end.
I'm going to assume, that if this has been going on for a while, that you've already told them that you simply are not interested in him.
What would be absolutely the BEST is if you also had told him at some point: "Look dude, I'm not interested in you. I'm sorry if I was rude at my Bat Mitzvah, but I'm still just not into you."
That sentence above would be the best, and kindest thing to say to him (even though he is a teenage boy lacking in the intellect department, consider your show of respect and honesty a learning opportunity for him if you'd like. You have a chance to show him what honest and respectful rejection looks like).
But for your friends, just state once that you are STILL not interested in him, and then simply tell them to shut up. It's not funny, and it's not interesting. You don't have to be polite to meddlers and drama-seekers. Be firm. Snarl if need be.
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Just explain to them once and for all that you are not interested in this guy and you are not going to date him. Tell them that you're honestly sick of hearing about it and that you would greatly appreciate them leaving you alone about it.
There's nothing wrong with not being interested in dating guys when you're thirteen. I thought being a guy's girlfriend at 13 was silly, too. Your friends shouldn't be bothering you about it, but it's just a maturity thing. If you guys were older, they wouldn't even mention it twice.
Just try telling them in a very serious tone that you aren't going to date him and that you're done talking to them about it. If they bring him up again, just don't respond to that particular subject. Once you tell them that you're not going to talk about it again, there's nothing wrong with enforcing that by changing the subject or ignoring comments that are made about him.
Darby(:
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