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Hanging On
I've been friends with this one girl forever, even before elementary school. She never actually told me that she was my best friend, but I always thought so because she and I hung out together a lot and we shared everything with each other. A few years ago, Friend #2 moved in from Maryland and started to hang out with my group of friends. We've just discovered that my original friend is going to move to California, where she was born, and friend #2 is becoming very clingy and starting to keep secrets between my friend and I. Friend #2 is always choosing seats next to my friend, and talking with her, and trying to stand between my friend and I when we get into the lunch line, because all of us buy food every day. I'm not sure what to do- friend #2 is somewhat friends with me even though she tries to hang out more with my original friend. I don't want to tell her to buzz off, and I'm afraid what kind of answer I might get if I ask my original friend. What do I do?
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Wow, you must be sad to find out that your first friend is moving to California. You hardly have time to spend with her before she leaves and this other girl is butting in. And it seems she likes your friend best of the two of you. You can try inviting your first friend to some specials times together, just the two of you, because she will be moving soon. You can share your memories of the times even before elementary school that you shared together. If you become closer when you are together, then even when other kids are around, it can't take away the special times you had together. I hope that you two will stay in touch using the computer. I think you should be patient with friend #2. When your first friend moves, she may become more important to you. WHile that may not interest you, you don't want to have her as an enemy. She could make your life miserable. Better that you are in control of the situation, and you are the one to turn down her friendship rather than she snub you. I know that you are anxious and you are right to have the feelings that you do about girl #2, but I have always found that patience pays off, because you can't take back something bad when it is said. And it could come back to haunt you. I hope this helps. GOod Luck.
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