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always worried
This is probably weird for a 16 year old but here it goes.... I am always sooo worried of being kidnapped....I hate going to bed sometimes because I get kind of scared. Also, my grandma is turning 71 this year (the age her mom was when she died).. her mom died from Ovarion Cancer and it's not hereditary or anything, but I'm just scared. Also, worried about people in my family ecspecially my mom, dying. Is there any way I can get over this annoying pain? Thanks and please help!
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Hi honey, thanks for writing. Well some people say life is a roll of the dice, you never know what you are going to get. I understand why you are worrying Sooooo many things can go wrong, and some really terrible things like being kidnapped. But you can take steps to minimize the chances. Are the doors all locked at night, are you never home alone? If any stranger even comes near you scream, scream, scream. They don't like attention. I am guessing that your grandmother and mother care about you very much and also take precautions. Like I did with my boys. Kidnappers look for kids whose parents don't care about them. They usually watch a neighbor hood for a while and they can pick out the kids who have too much freedom. Whose parents aren't always looking for them, or who want to know where they are at all times. The parents who go out at night and leave their kids home alone. If none of that is happening, then you have less of a chance of being kidnapped that other kids who do live like that. Be smart, kidnappers don't like smart kids, because they know they can't fool them. Don't ever beleive it if someone comes up to you and says, "You're mother sent me, she has had an accident, you need to come with me" And stuff like that.
Now as far as your mom or your grandmother dying, well, are they healthy, do they eat a healthy diet, do they smoke, drink too much? Are they bad drives, do they take chances with their lives? If not that is a very good thing. I think you just love them so much you know you would miss them if something happened. And that is normal. And honey, our memories of our loved ones is what keeps them alive for us. I wish I would miss my mom, if something happened to her, but I wouldn't because she was not a nice mother, or very good to me. I wouldn't miss her at all. you are lucky that you have a grandmother and mother that are worth worrying about. Now let me end wit this quote, I hope you understand it.
A coward dies a thousand deaths, but a brave man only dies once.
It means that in reality, we all ONLY DIE ONCE. but if we are cowards and afraid to live, we think we die or are about to die, and worry about dying all the time....instead of living.
Nothing in this world would have been accomplished if we all worried about dying. The guy who invented the computer for instance, or the TV or the cell phone. If he or she was constantly worried about dying, or his/her loved ones dying, they would not have had time to think about inventing something great. I know that you are a smart girl, and while your folks appreciate your concern, they don't want you to limit your life worrying about things that you have on control over. Fix the things you can, about being safe and stuff, and taking care of your health, and forget the things you can do nothing about.
So let me ask you this, when your mom tells you that NO you can't go somewhere because she knows that it is not a safe place for a girl your age to be, without an adult present, you're going to listen and not give her a hard time, right?
God bless you and good luck.
Your mom is lucky to have you.
Michele
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