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painful love
Okay so I am inlove with this guy at my school. So much so that it hurts. He is a pretty shy mexican boy. He has been a friend of mine for about 4-5 months, but I only realized about two and a half months ago that I like him as more than just a friend, and ever since I have been falling more and more inlove with him. He and everyone at the school knows I like him. His brother is not at all shy and calls me future sister-inlaw and when other guys are messing around with me he tells them to leave me alone because I am his brothers lady, ect. Most of the mexican girls at my school don't want him to be with me cuz i am white or whatever, neways, at lunch and stuff he walks by me slowly by himself because he knows I will follow him and we talk but never about us in that way. I have two classes with him and one i sit right next to him and we laugh and talk like always have. But still never talk about us. It hurts so much seeing him there right in my grasp but I can't touch him. Loving him but not being able to tell him directly. Wanting him but not having him. I wish he wasn't so shy. All my friends say to make the first move and ask him out, but I dont want to be to eager. I have called him and we talk but my bestfriend was on the line too.(we are all pretty good friends) But I am too shy to call again. I am so confused and sometimes I think to myself what are you doing even trying it will never work, but then I think of how much worse it will hurt if I don't try. I am a very pretty girl and have a lot of friends and all so it isn't like I am a nerd and cant have him. There has never been someone I wanted and couldn't have which makes it even more painful cuz this hasn't happened before. Do you think he likes me and what should I do? I am going to see him tomarrow for the first time in like 4 days. Please tell me what you think I should do. Sorry it was so long
~!^Nat^!~
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Oh yea he has a jealous mexican ex-girl friend but it is okay if she messes with me i will kick her ass. she sometimes gives me dirty looks and I give them back and yell what the f**k you looking at you dumb bitch and she gets scared and she should be. I don't take stuff from people no matter how big they are!.
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Well, it sounds like you're self-confident enough to ask the boy out. He seems really quite shy, though he's trying to give you signals that he likes you too. Just bring up the subject of you two going out/dating/whatever next time you talk to him.
I'm sure he wants to ask you out, but he's so shy and scared of rejection that he doesn't want to reach out. You give the impression of being a very confident, pretty, and popular girl--that scares alot of boys witless. Make the first move! He won't say no, and most likely, he'll be relieved that you asked him first.
His ex-girlfriend shouldn't really matter as long as she's not hanging all over him all the time. I mean, there's no point in even talking to her if she gives you dirty looks--she's just trying to tempt you to do something stupid. Be the better woman and ignore her. Believe me, if she's ignored, she'll see her crap has lost its fun and she'll stop.
I hope all goes well with you and your boy! If you have any other questions, feel free to ask me!
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hey nat! alright first of all, because you said you & this boy never talk about your relationship, i think that is what you need to do first. i know it sounds scary...believe me i know how you feel, but if it means that much to you, then i think you should bring it up. maybe just say something like:
"hey, we have known each other for a while now, & i really like being your friend, but do you ever think of us as anything more then just friends?"
or say
"i wanted to let you know that i really like you alot...i am curious to know your feelings about us."
becasue he is shy, you probably do need to take the first step. i am not promising anything (i wish i could!!) but you will never know how he feels if you don't ask!
now once you both get your feelings out in the open, things will probably seem alot clearer!
if you need any advice after you take the first step, let me know! oh and please let me know how it works out between you two, becasue i would love to give you more/different advice!!
GOOD LUCK!!!!!
oh and one more thing, you might not want to yell at his ex...i know it is so tempting, but when you do that you just lower yourself down to her level. show her that you don't care what she thinks by simply ignoring her, or talking nicely with her...this is hard but it is the right thing to do.
I REALLY HOPE EVERYTHING BETWEEN YOU AND THIS BOY WORKS OUT!!!!!!!
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hey, how old are you? if you're in high school or middle school or something like that, he's not the only one you will meet in your life. If he's like your best friend, talk to him about it. Some of my guy friends are ok with these things. if he is a understanding guy, he'll get it. forget about what other people say, if you like him, go for it. But i've had trouble in this department. i have told a guy friend of mine that i liked them more, and we haven't spoken in a long time. but think about it, would you rather have him as a close friend or a boyfriend? i mean what are the benefits. It's your desicion and i can't stop you from making the first move. just understand this isn't "real" love it's just a crush. i hope i helped. good luck
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