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Please help.
(I'm going to try to make this as short as I can)
I met this guy this year. I have liked him all year, and I could be hurt by him really easy. If he went out with a girl I would get all sad, and couldn't look at myself in the mirror for days. Anyways, he went out with this Tiffany girl that was a lot bigger than I and kind of ugly..(not to be mean) and every day I got it rubbed in my face by her. Well, the guy broke up with her (lets call the guy Bob)and asked me out a few weeks later. I told him no because at the time I was going through quite a few family troubles (me and my mom were not getting along at ALL) and so on. So we didn't talk for about two months, I was extremely hurt badly but I also knew that his relationships only lasted about a week. Well, anyway. Later on we were talking and we both admitted we liked each other and so on. He asked me out and since I liked him a lot I told him yes. He told me that I was all he wanted, dreamed of and so on.I was so happy with him, I found my depression going away and I just was...well happy. His family life isn't good however, and one night about a month later he was with his dad and got in this huge fist fight. He signed online and we talked about it for a bit, then he signed off. I was really worried about him. Three hours later he signs back on and tells me he is going under too much stress to date me...so I flip out and so on. He wants to be friends still, and of course I agree because I like him alot and just wants what he wants. So...the next day I was really hurt and he tried to talk to me and I kind of left him hanging by walking off on him. I told my friend what happened, and Bob wanted to skip so he skipped with her and this other guy. My friend asked him why he did it and he told her it was because he didnt want to put any stress on me or put me what he was going though. That he cared about me a lot and he just didn't have time to be with anyone at the moment, and he wanted to spend all of his time with me but he couldnt so it was not fair to me. (hes planning on getting his own place soon.) ...He also said he loved me. He said that he needed to get everything straightened out so he could spend full time with me... Now this sounds stupid, but love to him means a lot and he does not just say it to anyone. Hes only loved one girl (not being me) and that was a while before. Anyways. He said he wanted to get with me later if I would take him back. Okay, well since we broke up hes been skipping which so far has been three days. I have a feeling as if he is avoiding me but I don't know. He use to always IM me (not the two months we stopped talking) but now he does not anymore. I IMed him and he kept the conversation short and signed off without saying bye. I don't know what to do or who to believe. I know hes going through a lot of family problems, but still. I just don't understand. He said he wanted to be here for me and I told him I wanted to be there for him. He told me he cared a lot about me still. He does not know what my friend told me the about him saying he loved me and such. Am I just paranoid? What should I do? I have cried since the night he broke up with me and I just.... I don't know.I know this is long, I'm sorry. I just really need help.
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Well you failed in trying to make it short. Let's break down your question piece by piece. The fat ugly bitch has nothing to do with it. Two, you both have problems at home. You having them is irrevalent, him having them is. He claims to not wanna put stress on you. I call bullshit here b/c when I like a girl, I make time for her. And she'd be a good way to get away from the stress. He's avoiding you b/c he doesn't really love you, he cares about you, but he doesn't know how to say b/c he knows you'll cry. This is not unusual, girls cry a lot.When you're 16 or 17, saying I love you fucks things up. Dump the loser, start over, and enjoy yourself kiddo.
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I think you need to give him some time. He's going through some major stuff at home by the sound of it. He's probably pretty upset by it all. Just be there when he wants to talk. I'm sure he will get it all straight soon.
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