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Well I'm 13/f and I have a really good friend of mine(z) . We don't really call each other bestfriends because we already have people from when we where little, but we are really close. I know most of her secrets, with the exception of the secrets she wouldn't tell for her life. I also have another friend(x) who is like this, we are kinda weird. We love to have fun and when it comes to hanging out we end out acting like we are on crack. But lately my other friend is getting pissed off. I only have two good friends so when I'm out I'm either with x or z. I started noticing this when I called z and was telling her about some little thing I did with x. She said, "*Sigh* with x?" "yah" "of course". I don't care when she talks about her other friends. I always go to lunch with her (just the two of us) and I always walk home with her when I can. So whats the big deal I spend almost spend all my time with her!!
~help please
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Well, the big deal is that your almost-best-friend's feelings are hurt.
While Z may have no real reason to be upset, she is because she's human. That doesn't mean that you have to fight back, ignore her, or put up with her attitude.
Maybe she needs words to back up your actions; let her know that she's very, very important to you. Also let her know that just because you hang out with other people doesn't mean that she's any less special to you.
Your other choice is to stop mentioning Friend X to Friend Z, but that will lead to a lot of frustration and anger on your part - and you shouldn't have to lie about your time.
So, try talking to your friend. Keep making time for her. Eventually she'll understand that you can care for more than one person - and maybe you can introduce the two of them. Who knows? Maybe Z will actually like spending time with you and X, and chances are she will feel more included in your life if you occasionally ask her to come out with you and X.
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