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Hey, I recently had sex with this guy I only knew for a week, and I found out the other day that I am pregnant, and he has giveing me some kindof STD but I dont know what because I havent been to the health department about it yet but I plan on going soon, the day befor yesterday I found out I was pregnant, and I'm thinking that I have no other choice then to get an abortion because whatever I may have it could affect the baby and the baby could be born with all sorts of problems, but I am so confused on what I should do, I talked to my ex boyfriends friend today and his friend told me that my ex boyfriend has been giveing people who he has sex with something but I dont know what and I am scared that I am in danger myself and that it could be deadly and I dont want to get my first child that I am ever pregnant with get an abortion because I know thats going to be with me for the rest of my life...my ex boyfriend doesnt know that I am pregnant and any of the other girls he has given something he doesnt care at all and he doesnt use a condom with girls...I am scared though I am only 15 and haveing to make up my mind about what I should do and everything leads to haveing an abortion because I dont want to have my baby suffering...does anyone think I am doing the right thing by haveing an abortion? Thats my question am I doing the right thing?...I know I shouldnt have had sex to begin with and I have heard of STD's but I never thought I would be the one haveing one...I know that I have made mistakes and believe me I am paying for them, but could anyone who has been through this tell me if I am doing the right thing by getting an abortion....Thanks, I'll rate high to any answers that are not being sarcastic..thanks Bye
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Before you make a decision about whether or not to have an abortion, you should get the full story. Go to a doctor as soon as possible, get tested for STDs, find out the treatment, and ask about how that could affect the baby you are carrying. If your main concern is passing something onto the child or causing them some sort of suffering, then your mind will likely be put to rest by what a doctor can tell you - many STDs can be treated with oral antibiotics, and they won't affect your health too seriously.
It's important to find out exactly where you stand, because this minimizes your chances of having significant regrets. Imagine how you would feel if you had an abortion, and then discovered afterward that your STD would have had no affect on the baby.
When you have all the information about your situation, then you are armed to make the choice that is best for you. Either way, you're going to need some sort of counselling - the sooner the better. Most abortion clinics require counselling before you can undergo the procedure.
I'll also point out that due to your age, I'm not sure if your treatment for an STD or an abortion can be kept from your parents.
But as you aren't sure what type of STD you have, let alone if you actually have one, go to a doctor! You'll also want a doctor to confirm the pregnancy.
Any choice you make will have good and bad sides, but the key is making sure you feel confident it is the best decision for you at this point. Right now, you don't sound very confident.
You might have got yourself into this situation, but to get yourself into a BETTER situation you're going to need to calm down, breathe, and get to a doctor. Having the support of an adult you trust will be invaluable.
Best of luck.
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Well hun i like how youve thought bout the baby and things..but go to the doctor first and see exactly what this STD is.. see if it can harm the baby in any way..and see how its cured and get help for it.. also i think if you can get cured and everything you shouldnt get an abortion.. if you dont wanna raise this child cause your so young give it up for adoption..this child deserves to live.. one way or another and you should try your hardest to bring this baby in the world..much luv dez x0x0
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When you go to a doctor he/she will be able to answer all your questions for you.
The main thing right now is to get to a doctor.Be sure that you tell the doc. all your fears and concerns.
All this is exactly why young girls should not hop into sex with boy's and why youo should insist they wear condoms if they do. Get to know a person first.
ok enough of that. How do you know for sure you a pregnant? Home tests can be wrong. See a doc. to be absolutely sure.Missed periods can be from stress too.
If an STD is treated before a babys birth its
usually fine. It's those that go untreated that cause the problems.So, if you get treated now, and you are pregnant, chances are good that the baby will come out perfect.
All STD's put you in danger. You must get it treated immediatley. okay?
I personally do not believe in abortion.I got pregnant at 16 so I know what youo are going through. I never even considered it myself. I am not telling you what to do because you will have to make that descision for yourself. I just don't want you to rush into something you will later regret. Adoption is also a choice to consider.
Where do your parent's stand on all this? They need to be told. Once they get over the initial shock of it they will hopefully be of great help to you.
Whatever you decide I would like you to feel free to email me at address on my column. It has been a few years since I went through it but It isn't something that I forget! I got married myself, though that option is not advisable in your situation. My baby is now almost 30 yo with 5 baby's of his own! So please feel free to write and I will do my best to help you out with anything you care to ask. :)
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Go to the doctor. Now. Or a Planned Parenthood clinic or something. You need to talk to an expert, because this isn't something you can handle alone.
Also, you should tell your parents. You'll need their support to go through with whatever you do... whether it's an abortion or giving the baby up for adoption or keeping it... you'll need their emotional support, and perhaps financial/physical support as well.
Best of luck to you in surviving this situation *hugs*
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