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i have a friend and she's my neighboor.we have been friends for a long time.but there are these
two other boys who she always hangs out with and i don't like those boys.they never invite me to hang out with them and even if they did i wouldn't
want to because they always do things or talk about thing's i don't like.it's like she always stands up for them and she's against me.i think i feel left out.please help!
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You're normal for feeling left out. It's a human thing to feel. The problem isn't how you feel, but what you plan to do about it.
You have two options:
1. Since you don't want to hang out with these boys, enjoy the fact that they don't ask you. Your friend is free to have other friends, and you won't both like the same people. She can like them and like you, too.
2. You can ask her to choose between you, and chances are she won't pick you. Most people don't do well when given an either/or sort of choice.
I think you should let her know that you feel left out, and that you just want some reassurance that your friendship is still important to her. If she says she still wants to be your friend, then you either have to believe her or move on. Why lose a friendship because other people are involved? You guys can't be together 24/7 anyway.
Make sure you've still got time to do things with just the two of you, and then you can spend time with other friends/activities when she's hanging out with these boys.
Of course, if the 'things' these other boys are doing are inappropriate or dangerous, you'll want to have a serious talk with your friend and/or a responsible adult. If you just don't like their style, then that's fine. Not everybody likes everyone else, but it's about being able to exist peacefully in the same space.
It can be frustrating and sad to feel left out, but ultimately you'll realize she's not picking between you - she's got enough friendship to go around.
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