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hey thanks for the great advice. I hope that this works. Ive called his cell earlier and he is ignoring me. But Maybe like youve said he needs time to cool down. I just dont wanna mess this up because I feel like its my last chance.
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Sure, no problem. How often has this happened? If it hasn't happened too much, don't feel like it's your last chance. Whenever me and my boyfriend get into fights I feel the same, like if I mess up he'll leave.
But another thing I forgot to add is that when you two argue, try and keep things civil. I've put this to the test with our relationship and it really does work. Being civil includes no name calling, no finger pointing, just basically laying out the facts. What tends to happen in arguments is that it escalates into something worse because the argument tends to go off track and then you'll be fighting about something completely different compared to what's really important.
I know you're probably the peacemaker during fights, and just keep it up. Just remember to respect his decisions on what he does and does not want to do/say. And if he ever gets angry at you for really no apparent reason, just remind him that you're not trying to make him mad or trying to hurt him, cuz after all, you're his wife. If he takes things the wrong way, just calmly tell him,
"Hun, you're not getting what I'm saying. I'm not telling you this to intentionally hurt you. I'm your wife hunni. If I ever say anything that has a double meaning and one side of it is bad, what makes you think I'm meaning the bad side? Why would I try and hurt you like that? This is what I'm really trying to say, and please hear me out..."
Remember that during arguments, clarify your statements as well as his. This way you two will come to a better understanding of the situation and usually it prevents irrational actions like him throwing the ring at you.
As for him cooling down, yea my boyfriend turns off his cell sometimes too when I try to get a hold of him. My boyfriend's reason is that he doesn't want to get more angry by talking to me because when he reaches his boiling point, he tends to call me names and he's trying to prevent it from getting worse by talking to me so he has to cool down. I hope your husband is doing the same.
I hope everything works out for you two, and if you ever need anything, you know where to reach me! Tell me how it goes :)
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