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break up /on off ten years continues.......
hello all,
I am the ten year (idiot)well thats what I call myself! since all of your advice I have found myself sleeping with him again and feeling like things will get better, I have not moved back in with him becaise I litiraly cannot afford it, and that would make everything even worse!!!but I have been off work as im sure you can imagine I need time to think, But is it not strange that every night I cant get hold of him?? i know he is with another woman am I just thick???
Today is different I am going to stay away from him because I know he is a liar and a cheat I cannot afford to be dragged back in , how the hell do i keep strong and sane in the process????
23 london, going insane ! female
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I have the best book for you! It's called 'ten stupid things women do to mess up their lives' by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. It's not a self-help book, i strongly dislike those; it's a wonderful book that changes your whole current perspective on relationships. It would tremendously help you like it has helped me and the best way to get through to you what i'd like to say is really all found in this one little fantastic book. It really is extraordinary. Anyways, i think you should put this guy behind you. This is very unhealthy relationship that you are better than. Don't just SAY you are going to stay away from him. So many women SAY they are going to stay away from the awful man theyre with, but the problem with this is that they end up saying this forty million times, and it never changes. Break away from your disrespectful, low-down lover and try self-accomplishment and core fulfillment. You are taking the 'female escape route', a term i picked up through the book mentioned above, and you are basically avoiding becoming an individual through attachment to this male counterpart. And, its taking you down with it. Don't let him pull you back in; don't let him pull the wool over your eyes. Don't let him disrespect you, lie to you, treat you like youre good for nothing, and especially treat you like youre just any other woman. Get out of the mess youre stuck in, clean yourself up, and go dance in the flowery meadow. heh, don't settle for less than what YOU deserve.
luv, SARAH
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Sounds like you are in the same boat as me!
I am 23 too.
Still in love with your ex - can't seem to break away and say that final goodbye!
Every song you hear applies in someway to your relationship.
You find yourself thinking about him all the time.
You still talk about him all the time and you would love nothing more than to be with him and have a perfect relationship.
You still speak/see him all the time?
Sound familiar! Thought so.
You probably aren't going to like what I say but hey this is my advice to you!
Break ALL contact. Change your mobile number, e-mail address etc etc and everytime you think about him replace the thought of him with a thought of someone else close to you.
If you can't get hold of him at night then I hate to say it but he is probably with another woman, you just don't want to see it. (I've been there!)
Just keep your head up and stay strong by knowing that if he can treat you like that then he is not good enough for you and he WILL regret it! Especially when you find someone who truly loves you and end up happy with them.
If you need a chat inbox me or e-Mail me at MelanieHarvey81@hotmail.com
Take care!
Melanie
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