my boyfriend is over protective. How do we deal with the fact that he doesnt want me getting a pap smear becasue he says that he doesnt want any other guys looking at me
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Domesticity category? Maybe give some free advice about: Parenting? FernGully answered Monday March 21 2005, 5:24 pm: Oh, dude, you drop that fucker like a rock. Who cares what his opinion is, seriously. This is a situation that angers me because really - it is absolutely none of his business. Let's go over the many many many many reasons why that is overall really fucking stupid:
a) Not all doctor's are male
b) they don't get satisfaction out of it
c) it is a medical exam, something you HAVE to do
d) it is your body, not his
e) he doesn't get a say
f) he doesn't get a say
g) he really, really doesn't get a say.
Would your boyfriend really prefer you get cancer? Or not have doctors find some disease in its early stages that could take your life away so that you can avoid having a male doctor do his trained job which he does everyday (if it even is a guy, and there is a pretty nice chance it won't be)? Your boyfriend is a controlling asshole. Either he realizes that he doesn't get a say, let alone allow himself to be okay with it, or move on. Or lie about it. Whatever makes you happy with the situation. Tell him it is your body and not his and that having a pap smear is not an enjoyable frivillous experience that is like cheating on him. He is stupid if he thinks that.
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