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hey i asked that question before about my guy friend. thanks for your advice, you got really detailed. the problem is i dont think they will be going out for that long, but you never know.. you know what i mean? no she hates me because like last weekend i was supposed to be hanging out with my friend tami and my guy friend and tamis boyfriend, whos best friends with my guy friend. tami suggested we invite my guy friends new gf(before she was) because the three of us are friends. and i just said she shouldnt, because i didnt want to spend the night with her two nights in a row (because i was having my bday party the next night, with alot of people) and i felt like if it was the 5 of us i would get left out, even though tami said i wouldnt. so i guess tami told her and now they both wont talk to me. and my guy friend, carter, says he will do anything to get us to be friends again, even tho i told him not to because he really wants us to be. but now this whole liking thing has just thrown everything up, and i feel like im loosing my 3 best friends all at once.
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Well, this is a really confusing situation your in eh..
well... Your right about you never know how long some people might go out for.. because they might just like the rush of having someone to call their own, almost like a pet. It makes people feel good when they have a bf/gf because they know someone is there for them. Well, your friend, not tami, has some things she needs to work out. She needs to see things from your point of veiw. Was your friend invited to your birthday party? If so, she should completely understand why you didn't want to hang out, but if she wasn't she has a reason to be upset. Was Tami invited to your birthday party? because if SHE was, your other friend might be upset because you would be hanging out with Tami two days in a row. So, she needs to see things your way, and you need to see things her way. It's a normal feeling to not want to be left out, I get it all the time and I tend to forget about how I treat others when I don't want to be left out, I leave others out. So you had all the right in the world to not want to be left out, because I bet you nobody else wanted to be left out either. But, you never told Tami to not tell your friend, but knowing girls she probably left out a few important peices of the story. She probably just said she didn't want to hang out with you. But the real reason was you didn't want her to come because you didn't want to be sick of her before your birthday, right? As for Carter, he shouldn't be doing annnyyythhhinnng to help you two be friends again. no no no. Girls get very upset when people push them to be friends again, and the last thing you want to do is to make it seem like you told Carter to help you two be friends again, because that could result In your friend breaking up with him and her being mad at you, once again. As for the statement you feel like your losing all your best friends, you can prevent this. With girls, they need time to cool off, even if it's about a small thing. They need their space, their time. It seems to me that Carter is a very caring guy and you don't want to lose him. But as for your two girl friends. I wish I knew what to say for them. If Tami left out bits and pecies of the story, making your friend upset with you.. that's not a very great friend.. right? and if your friend got upset with you just because someone told her something... she didn't come to you to ask if what Tami had said was true. I am not saying to give up on Tami and your friend, but to talk with them. get everything straightened out.. but give your friend some room first.
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