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hi welp im having guy problems. i text this guy that i like alot and we talk a whole bunch. he is one my best friend and i love him. everyone has been coming up to me and telling me that he likes me and i like him too. i dont know what to do because i dont want to make the first move and i have been waiting for him too! help please thanks
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
If this guy REALLY likes you, and he's worth being with, he'll be around for the long haul. Leave it a month and then do a little detective work around your friends to see if he still likes you! If he does, then go for it! He may have already made a move by then anyway :) If he doesn't still like you, then I know it'll be hard to get over, but he's not worth it if he can loose interest in you that quickly!
I know it's SO difficult and scary to make the first move, but you'll feel so much better if you do it and get everything out in the open!
Plus, a first move doesn't always have to be kissing his brains out. If you usually go out as a big group, invite him out on his own and flirt a little (look up through your eyelashes, touch his arm every now and then, but ultimately and most importantly, be yourself!), maybe even in a more romantic setting than the usual McDonalds. Maybe a coffee shop? They're hardly romantic but they're great first-date spots so going to one may help him get the hint! You could start with holding hands. Don't kiss straight away - give yourself a day to get used to the idea of best friends turning into boyfriend and girlfriend - you don't want to move too fast or you'll totally mess your head up. Maybe give him a kiss on the cheek goodbye, but you don't wanna confuse yourself - or him - by going suddenly from one relationship to another if he agrees to go out with you. Leave it a day, but it doesn't have to be any more if you don't want it to be :)
However tempting it is, don't get a friend to ask him out for you. He'll respect your honesty and maturity - whatever his answer - if you ask him yourself, or even in a letter.
If you want to keep the spotlight off you while still hinting you like him, ask him how he feels about you - REALLY feels. And if he looks embarassed - like he's going to say he likes you too - then maybe hold his hand or something - it might show him that you like him and it's OK for him to like you.
Whatever you do, don't let this pass you by. It's always better to be rejected than to spend the rest of your life wondering what if. Remember...the only failure you will ever make is when you never really failed because you were too scared to try. Being nervous is good, it means you care about him and it will put him at ease :)
Good luck, and I hope it goes well for you two!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx
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