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What is preventing me from meeting the right person?
Hi,
I am a 27 year old male. I have a problem that has been plagueing me since the age of about 18. I can never meet the right person and it seems the last 9 years of my life, not one really special mate has come into my life. I have a great bunch of friends, am considered attractive by many in both looks and personality, but yet, the right woman never comes into my life. I have had only one serious relationship, that lasted a year. And with other romances included that means that out of the last 9 years, 7.5 years of that time I have been alone. All my friends managed to find attractive girls that were good fun and have serious relationships their whole lives, yet I was always the one left out, the one that was always alone.
All I want is a girl that I find attractive, that I get along well with, and it just seems meeting these girls is very few and far between, say once a year/every 2 years. I'll admit I've had many girls that have liked me, but I never liked them.
If you had to see the world through my eyes, it would seem like there is this intense design by a higher power preventing me from meeting this right person. I have been to numerous house parties, barbeques at friends houses and various other places and yet never ever meet this special girl. This is not by chance or bad luck, there is a reason for this happening, and I would like to know what it is, or how I can remove this obstacle from my life.
This loneliness is really torture for me. Its actually weaking me as a person, I am strong most of the time, but sometimes I just break down and cry because it seems like some curse has been laid on me, that I will be lonely all the time.
Do you have any advice on something like this?
Thanks
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anonymous -
I'm not sure what your standards are in women, but perhaps maybe you're limiting yourself or you're maybe too fickle?
You say that often times a girl may like you, but you don't like her in return. Might I ask why? There are some men and women who single out possible mates by looking for "the perfect one". Unfortunately there is no such thing cuz everyone possesses flaws! If you've seen that movie "Shallow Hal", like that guy who dumped a girl just cuz her second toe is longer than her big toe? It's just not right.
For example, when I first saw a picture of my boyfriend (haven't met yet, we were online friends through his cousin), he was attractive, but he looked like the overrated attractive. You know, the super ego meatheads (which I simply do not like, I tend to like nerdy average looking males). Even so, as I talked to him more and more and got to know him, I still went out with him and love him to this day (3 yrs.). Looks are not an important factor for me, because as time elapsed I've grown to love him for who he is, flaws and all.
If you don't think your standards might be too high, sign up for a gym membership and scope out girls. Or perhaps go to a club with some friends. Or even maybe a church event, broaden your horizons! There's a lot of places where single girls hang out, heck you could even find someone in the supermarket! Or try an online dating service! Be creative :)
I hope this helps, and I'm sure you'll find someone out there. It's a big world and you're still young! Good luck!
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I know how your feeling. I'm in the same postion. The best thing i can offer you is to stop looking but look single. Instead of going out thinking right i wanna pull tonight just go out with good intentions of having a good time. Hope i've helped. If u wanna chat with me then mail me at vicky2k50@hotmail.com. xx
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