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i feel numb
hi - iv got 2 questions 2 ask you
My question is really weird because i don't really feel anything at all. im usually an all out there person who's kind of a *nice* drama queen ( i overact and exagerate but im not bitchy) . anyways , i used to go crazy for this guy - whenever he called , or i saw him or he was online . but now i dont feel anything at all when those things would happen now. i feel like the fire inside me just got extinguished.
My sex life is non existen since im a virgin. im o-kay with tht but everytime i masturbate i don't feel excited either. im afraid i won't feel anything when i first have sex. is it possible to never have an orgasm?
Thanks tons!
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Well, the first part of your question is probably easier to answer than your second - I would guess that you just don't like this guy anymore. It's normal to feel extremely into someone and then not really care either way. This is the nature of attraction - you can't help who your heart does (or doesn't!) like.
As for the next part, don't masturbate unless you feel excited. If you're masturbating just to kill time, because you're bored, or because you're in the habit it's not going to help you feel more excitement. Wait until you feel you really WANT to masturbate, and then go for it.
Did you used to feel excited, and then stop? If that's the case, then do two things: don't masturbate unless you're excited, and try new things - new rhythms, etc. If you've never felt excited while masturbating, those rules still apply. Your body might not have developed to the point of allowing you to feel truly sexually excited yet, or perhaps your fears about nor orgasming are impacting on your ability to feel relaxed and sensual.
If you wait to have sex until you are truly ready for it, then chances are you will definitely feel something. It might not be all roses and hearts like in the movies, but something will be there. While some women may never orgasm, that's not a common thing at all.
I tend to think that it will happen for you - you've just got to masturbate when you feel the need to, and just enjoy the sensation without having any expectation of orgasm. Eventually you'll find a way of touching yourself that you most enjoy (most women enjoy clitoral stimulation instead of actually entering the vagina), and you'll be relaxed enough to go with the flow.
Best of luck.
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