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boyfriend/anger mangment
I am an 18 year old girl and my boyfriend is 17. In the beginning of our relationship aka before we had sex, he was soo nice to me but now he seems to get mad at everything i do. i've been going out with him for 1yr and 3mon. he took my virginity and he's pretty much my 1st real relationship(i really love him). i resently found out he cheated on me one night when he was mad at me and got drunk. i decided to give him one chance. soo anyways my question is how do i help him from getting mad at EVERY LITTLE thing i do? and stop him from getting phyical sometimes? my mom says to break up with him but i feel that u shouldn't run from problems cuz he'll just get worse and probably hurt someone else. i should help him with his problem, right? and that why we could still be together. and thats what i want, is to be with him.
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well here's the thing.
you can't help a person who doesn't want help. if he doesn't make that first step of allowing you to help him then there's absolutely nothing you can do.. if he gets physical with you -that's the first and most important sign to get out of that relationship.. you're not helping him or yourself by staying in it. if he got drunk because he was mad at you - it doesn't matter.. when a person is drunk they still realize what they're doing.. and if he cheated on you bc he got mad at you - that's the second sign to get out of that relationship.. also... i think he might just be with you only for the sex. if he was so nice to you before- he probably just wanted to get you to have sex with him, which is why now, when he got what he wants, his true colors are shining through.. you don't deserve to be treated this way, believe me. he doesn't deserve you if he treats you like crap, cheats on you, gets mad for little things, and gets drunk and abusive.. he obviously needs help - but professional help... and that's something you can't help him with, because you're not a professional and because there are feelings involved.. my advice to you is to get out of the relationship while you still can... he might turn around and realize what he's done- so keep an eye on him, if you see changes in his behavior.. like improvements, then you can give it another shot- but ONLY when you see changes.. don't just take his word for it.. good luck & stay safe & keep your eyes open. don't get sucked into an oblivious bubble where you only see waht you want to see & how you want people to appear. reality is a bummer. but i wish you the best & i hope i helped & let me know how things go.. =]
<3 elle
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