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I got my girlfriend pregant this time we know its true. We went to the hospital and got a test and its positive. We have been going out for 5 months almost 6 on the 21st of Jan. Well we don't know how to tell her mom. She doesn't have a dad and I only have a gurdians. We don't know what to tell them. The big problem is the age differnce! Im 16 and Shes 14. She hasn't been herself since we found out! She wants to run away with me and raise the baby ourself but I honsetly don't want to live! But, since i got her this way i have to go with her. If i don't she might try to kill herself. She tired it once and she'll do it again! Im so worrid about her! Thanks for your Help - J
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aww...well ok normally moms will def. freak out but then they have no choice but to go a long with it! So just catch her in a good mood... sit down with your g/f and talk to her mom.. just say that you want to keep the babie and raise it.. and most parents accept that but some on the other hand wont ... i cant say she will or wont because i dont know what kind of parents you guys have... but hey sweetie when you do talk to her drop another inbox and let me know how it went alright and if u need anything else im here ♥ bryttnii
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First of all, let me say that it's really good that you are accepting responsibility. You are right in doing so, though you didn't 'make' her anyway - both of you created this situation.
Being responsible for another person, like your girlfriend or your baby, means doing the best thing for them....even if it's hard or might make them unhappy in the short term.
Running away and trying to raise this baby isn't a good solution, and it sounds like you know it. I can't stress the HUGE financial considerations of raising a baby, and when you add that to rent, utility bills, food, and everything else - it's a recipe for disaster. I'll also add that you wouldn't be able to get an apartment unless her mom was willing to sign a form stating she'd give financial support.
Your best bet is to reassure your girlfriend that you will be there for her, and then work together to create some realistic goals. You can access free counselling through organizations such as Planned Parenthood - they'll help you see all of your options (abortion, adoption, keeping the baby) and what you'll need to consider for each one.
Basically, your girlfriend's mom needs to be told. If your girlfriend isn't strong enough to do it, offer to go with her. If she rejects that idea, then I think you should go speak with her mother.
Running away while she's pregnant is just another way of killing herself - maybe not her body, but her soul. It'll also harm the baby. Your girlfriend needs to be getting medical attention throughout the pregnancy, and that sort of thing will probably have to be paid for by her mother's insurance.
The sooner the mother is told, the better. Prepare for tears, yelling, and general craziness - but the earlier you tell her, the earlier she can get over the inital shock and try to support her daughter.
You'll also need to tell your guardians, or if you have a social services worker, then you can tell him/her.
If you feel nervous about doing so, why not try someone at your school? Or the doctor who gave the pregnancy test? I'm surprised that s/he gave a test to a 14 year old without her mother knowing, but perhaps that person could help you out. Adults need to know as soon as possible - it is best for you, your girlfriend, and your baby.
To be truly responsible, you need to stand firm and not let your girlfriend's (understandable) extreme emotions cause you to do things you will definitely regret.
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