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friends or more.. how do i decide?
stephanie,
i've been best friends with this guy for about a yr, and we have had this amazing friendship. right away when i met him we just clicked, and i knew it would never be more. he shares my sadnesses, my joys, ANY emotion that i'm feeling. (i'm just scared he isnt going to feel this one) i can always go to him with my problems, if i'm upset i can call him up at all hours of the night crying and he'll listen. he gives the best advice.. but i don't think he could help me on this one. because lately i think i want to be MORE than his best friend. i'm so confused because he always helps me with my guy problems. and i always help him with his girl problems. there's this one girl he can't get over and she treated him so badly that i just want to kick her or something.. she hurt him so bad.. and I was hurt with him. and i was insanely jealous of this girl and i couldnt figure it out..that's when i realized that i loved him.. as more than a best friend and i don't know what to do! can you help me?!
*desperate and confused*
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hey desperate and confused!
well, first of all, i'm thinking that you should decide if you REALLY like him or if you're just in a position where you want to have a boyfriend. boyfriends can be a lot more fun than friends--u know, they're there when you need them, the occasional kissing, holding hands, being protected bit. if you really like him enough to want to be boyfriend/girlfriend, then you should let him know how you're feeling. i think that you should also let him know that your friendship is too important for you to risk, so if he doesn't think that he has the same feelings for you, you would rather be friends. and also, don't go with him if you think he might just be rebounding from the girl who hurt him so badly. a lot of people would kill for the type of relationship you seem to have with this guy, and i think that your friendship is more important than having a date with him.
and if he says that he doesn't like you back in THAT way, don't be embarrassed or anything---if you're good enough friends, he shouldn't make fun of you or put you down for it. in fact, it's a compliment that you like him. and you never know, things might just work out!
tell me if this helps and keep me updated, k? thanks!
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