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Confused? Am I Moving too fast.
Well, i was online last night.
My friend was next to me.
Ryan was online as well. He ignored me for about an hour.
I said, oh ryan, your online, didnt see you there, sorry cant talk, busy!
and he replied, dont be sorry, im not.
So i deleted him from my contact list and blocked him.
I deleted his no. from my phone.
And my friend said, fantastic, that was the most coraguges thing I have seen you do in a while. you just have to learn to say 'fuck off' to boys like this who play games.
So I dont know anymore.
I think he is a game player, and my friend said that it was for the best. deleting him was fantastic. the start of the new 'not gonna be used' me.
All that worries me now is if i see him at the club on saturday night, and i know i will.
My friend said i should ignore him, and play games with him, but i dont know.
thanks for all your advice by the way. and merry christmas.
helokido
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I think it's a good idea to take steps against his games, but I think you need to be wary of getting drawn further into what he's doing. It sounds to me like a case of him wanting to have his cake and eat it too - he doesn't really want you, but he likes the attention, so baits you and winds you up and then when you look bored, offers you friendship which he knows you want, which keeps you trapped in this cycle. "Playing games" back to him and trying to beat him at his own game just reenforces what's been happening - he'll continuing to behave badly, you'll get bored of not getting what you want and being hurt, and then you are back to square one.
Just ignore him. Don't retaliate or try and beat him at his own game, just stop having these interactions with him. If you see him smile and say hi if it's appropriate, but don't engage with him any more than that. If he tries to talk to you, say you need to be getting back to your friends. This is the only way to break away from him and stop him having so much power to manipulate you and make you feel bad, which is in turn the only way to get over him and start anew. Good luck.
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