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my feelings towards my ex and my current partner
heya, i'm totally in love with my bf and ive never felt like this for anyone ever. But on Friday i went to see The Bled and Alexisonfire in B'ham, and my ex was there, we hadn't really spoken to each other properly since we broke up. And that night made me realise how much i miss him and i also had to stop him on a number of occasions from pinning me up the wall because i dont want to cheat on my partner. But i found out he still turns me on as much as he used to, just by being there and the simple things he does. is this wrong? am i in a way cheating on my partner? and do you think i should tell my partner what i'm feeling right now...because that might hurt him or help him understand...sorry for writing so much. xXxXxXxXx
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Well, I think it's natural and normal to feel attraction to other people - particularly people you were close with in the past. This in no way makes you a cheater. In fact, it makes you MORE trustworthy because you had the opportunity to act on your feelings and chose not to.
If you want to stay with your current partner, I think you should reaffirm that by thinking about how much he means to you, all his great personality traits, etc...and possibly be careful about spending any more time with your ex. After all, you're only human, and confusion in love happens to the best of us.
I don't think you need to tell your current partner about this, as you did nothing wrong and don't seem to be intending to do anything wrong. Chances are it would hurt your boyfriend pretty badly.
I think what you SHOULD do is forgive yourself. You can't help being attracted to people, but you CAN help not acting on the attraction. If you're deeply in love now, then just remind yourself that you're in a committed relationship - even if other people make your knees weak now and then.
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